I am not talking about looking at pictures, or watching yourself on videos or looking in the mirror while you are reciting your affirmations. I mean that you don’t know what you look like from the perspective of someone else. You don’t know what they see, sense, feel or think when they look at you and experience you. Is that important? You bet you butt it is. If you are interviewing, then the job depends on it. If you are approaching the opposite sex and expecting a warm reception, then it is paramount.
If we have established that it is important and that “You Don’t Know What You Look Like,” then it is also probably true that you don’t know how to find out how you look either.
It is simple. Ask people. Ask the people closest to you. Ask strangers. Ask early in conversations. There are several ways to ask. Ask them to give you three words that come to mind when they met you or three words that best describe you in their view. You can say, “You have known me all my life, in one sentence describe me and I don’t mean physically. Describe me as a person.”
Now you may be surprised at the answers you get. The person giving you the answers at a particular point in time is looking at you, sensing you through their own filters. For example, if they are very religious and sense the goodness in you, then that will be in their response. You will most likely get a lot of different answers and also a pattern will emerge.
Let me know your experiences and we will continue this interchange.
Dr YJC
Friday, May 8, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Attitude Motivation
A short one tonight – The question came up as “What is the best way to motivate yourself. What is the best motivation.” Many would say the basic needs. You are motivated to work to survive. This is not entirely true. There are many people who are motivated to survive by being leaches, blood suckers, energy vampires, bad check writers, welfare seekers, etc. These people do not need anything outside of themselves to motivate them. They do not need to stand in front of a mirror and chant positive statements or affirmations. They do not need for the most part for someone to get on their case about how they are living their life. So what do they have that is so powerful that they cruise through life totally motivated to do as little as possible of what the rest of us call work or responsibility.
Here is the answer. It is in the title. They have an attitude. I was listening to a tape from 1977 today. There was this one gentleman explaining that motivation without effort comes from attitude. Now by “without effort,” I think he meant that there are no extra ordinary ritual or energy expended to be motivated, to feel motivated, to get motivated.
As he shared his view, an attitude is the outward expression of the inner beliefs. If you have an inner belief of working and everything will be OK, then the attitude of doing a mental or physical activity to accomplish a goal is just natural and effortless. It could be expressed as “I don’t like lazy people” or “A little hard work never hurt anybody” or “Let’s get on with it” or “Did you every see a squirrel not store nuts”. Of course there are thousands more sayings that express the same attitude.
So what is the attitude you have or the attitude you want that will motivate you to accomplish your goals and invest in your own self development?
Let me here some of your limiting attitudes and most importantly some of your attitudes that will motivate you effortless.
Dr YJC
PS: For Tomorrow. Think about this. You do not know what you look like. You may see a reflection in a mirror and you probably do not see the reflection of yourself in other people.
Here is the answer. It is in the title. They have an attitude. I was listening to a tape from 1977 today. There was this one gentleman explaining that motivation without effort comes from attitude. Now by “without effort,” I think he meant that there are no extra ordinary ritual or energy expended to be motivated, to feel motivated, to get motivated.
As he shared his view, an attitude is the outward expression of the inner beliefs. If you have an inner belief of working and everything will be OK, then the attitude of doing a mental or physical activity to accomplish a goal is just natural and effortless. It could be expressed as “I don’t like lazy people” or “A little hard work never hurt anybody” or “Let’s get on with it” or “Did you every see a squirrel not store nuts”. Of course there are thousands more sayings that express the same attitude.
So what is the attitude you have or the attitude you want that will motivate you to accomplish your goals and invest in your own self development?
Let me here some of your limiting attitudes and most importantly some of your attitudes that will motivate you effortless.
Dr YJC
PS: For Tomorrow. Think about this. You do not know what you look like. You may see a reflection in a mirror and you probably do not see the reflection of yourself in other people.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Words That Sell
Recently a competitor had the courage to contact me and ask me why their ad copy wasn't doing very well.
It was easy to see. The message of the ad was soft.
A soft message is great if your market is soccer moms.
But if your market is those who are interested in becoming 1000x SMARTER, STRONGER, DEADLIER and MORE EFFECTIVE in the REAL WORLD, your message needs to be PENETRATING.
Otherwise, it won't jump out and grab their attention.
If your message is soft and unfocused, it will not sell.
It'd be like trying to hit someone in the balls with a pillow, and hitting them on the leg instead.
No pain. No gain. (as far as "getting the message across" goes)
Hard and focused, like a solid nard-smashing knee to the balls...
...now THAT's where the money is!
Also, that is WHAT and HOW I teach:
Whatever your goal...
HIT the target, WIN the trophy.
Smash the Pinata, collect the candy.
Capiche? Comprende? Understand?
Strike the root!
Are you ready to learn the root-striking methods of warrior kings?
Then catch it live on DVD, right here
Unlocking the Secrets,
Scott Bolan
It was easy to see. The message of the ad was soft.
A soft message is great if your market is soccer moms.
But if your market is those who are interested in becoming 1000x SMARTER, STRONGER, DEADLIER and MORE EFFECTIVE in the REAL WORLD, your message needs to be PENETRATING.
Otherwise, it won't jump out and grab their attention.
If your message is soft and unfocused, it will not sell.
It'd be like trying to hit someone in the balls with a pillow, and hitting them on the leg instead.
No pain. No gain. (as far as "getting the message across" goes)
Hard and focused, like a solid nard-smashing knee to the balls...
...now THAT's where the money is!
Also, that is WHAT and HOW I teach:
Whatever your goal...
HIT the target, WIN the trophy.
Smash the Pinata, collect the candy.
Capiche? Comprende? Understand?
Strike the root!
Are you ready to learn the root-striking methods of warrior kings?
Then catch it live on DVD, right here
Unlocking the Secrets,
Scott Bolan
Monday, May 4, 2009
Can you explain to me why people (I) have so much trouble with Communication?
As you probably guessed by now, I like definitions. The number one definition for communication is “an act of transmitting”. It implies ONE WAY and has no mention of content of what was transmitted. The number three definition is “a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs or behavior”. I like this one.
By focusing on two points you will greatly enhance the ways to communicate. Point one is information exchanged. Point two is the common system. In human communication and understanding human communication it requires a certain level of common language which includes environmental background. If a very religious person wants to clearly communicate their views with someone who does not have the same upbringing, then it is the responsibility of the speaker to learn and adapt to the audience to communicate with clarity.
If two people are engaged in interpersonal communication and want to be effective and they come from different economic backgrounds, then each must be aware and use that knowledge to be most effective in communication. They must also be aware of their non verbal and verbal communication. For Example, if a person is saying “yes” while shaking their head “no”. This non verbal communication should be noticed and determined whether it is a symbol or sign which is not congruent.
So to effectively communicate or communicate well, one should always consciously have a purpose and know the model of the world of the person or audience.
Also remember, when you are talking to a person, there are two people listening and one of them is you. Pay attention to your “self talk” and change it. All these together will allow you to communicate with confidence.
Advertising is a similar situation. To know if you are effectively communicating, you must have feedback, the other part of the information exchange. The feedback is sales or questions.
Am I communicating effectively with you? I can look at orders and questions coming back from you. If what I have to offer does not resonate with you, you will unsubscribe. If you like what you read and use it, if you feel good when you read, when you see something that rings true, you just know inside you want more, can you smell the sweet smell of success, then you will buy a product from us. If the products produce results for you, you will come back for more. Does that make cents and dollars?
Dr YJC
By focusing on two points you will greatly enhance the ways to communicate. Point one is information exchanged. Point two is the common system. In human communication and understanding human communication it requires a certain level of common language which includes environmental background. If a very religious person wants to clearly communicate their views with someone who does not have the same upbringing, then it is the responsibility of the speaker to learn and adapt to the audience to communicate with clarity.
If two people are engaged in interpersonal communication and want to be effective and they come from different economic backgrounds, then each must be aware and use that knowledge to be most effective in communication. They must also be aware of their non verbal and verbal communication. For Example, if a person is saying “yes” while shaking their head “no”. This non verbal communication should be noticed and determined whether it is a symbol or sign which is not congruent.
So to effectively communicate or communicate well, one should always consciously have a purpose and know the model of the world of the person or audience.
Also remember, when you are talking to a person, there are two people listening and one of them is you. Pay attention to your “self talk” and change it. All these together will allow you to communicate with confidence.
Advertising is a similar situation. To know if you are effectively communicating, you must have feedback, the other part of the information exchange. The feedback is sales or questions.
Am I communicating effectively with you? I can look at orders and questions coming back from you. If what I have to offer does not resonate with you, you will unsubscribe. If you like what you read and use it, if you feel good when you read, when you see something that rings true, you just know inside you want more, can you smell the sweet smell of success, then you will buy a product from us. If the products produce results for you, you will come back for more. Does that make cents and dollars?
Dr YJC
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Is She Going To Call You? The No-Spin-Zone!
My sincerest wish for you is that you discover your inner strength and innate personal power so that you are not needy for women and ego validation through sexual conquest.
And that standing solid on your own principle, which you need never sacrifice for a relationship, you attract...
... not seek, not woo, not supplicate, not acquire through expenditure...
... a soul-mate who is hotter-than-hell beautiful and who possesses your values and beliefs!
Too often our desire clouds our judgment, and we assign values onto the object of our desire, values which do not actually exist in the person.
A classic example of this is assigning high intelligence or moral integrity to beauty.
While beautiful women can be intelligent and moral, just as often they are not intelligent at all and rather shallow, and would be the first to tell you so...
...but why should they?
They are enjoying the ride - the dinners, the drinks, the gifts, the attention, praise and worship!
Don't forget that they too have an ego that craves to be fed, why would they rock the boat?
They will when "something better comes along" and you will be left desolate and despairing, sinking further into the hole of neediness.
To stay out of the trap, remember this Bolan Mastery Key:
Do Not Base Your Sense of Self-Worth on the Approval of Women.
Matter of fact, do not base your sense of self-worth on ANYONE's approval. Ever.
To have the approval of others should be respected and appreciated, but not actively sought after.
To seek after it is your ego's craving to be fed.
It should simply come naturally.
And if it doesn't come?...
.... do not notice!
You will find that if you are going about your business to be the very best you can be as a Master Warrior of Life, the right one will notice you and reach out.
I always noticed when I looked like I was going somewhere, it got the attention of the beautiful women. Why? Because all the other guys are feeding at the troff like cattle....
....and here comes a stallion, going somewhere!
That is far more interesting energetically!
It "magnetizes"
Always remember these two things:
1. People Are Energy
2. People Are Magnets
Now, I received a question recently: "What should I say on her answering machine so that she will call me back?"
I use Bill O'Reilly's No-Spin-Zone rule: "If I leave a message twice, and they do not call me back, I do not call them again."
That's a great rule.
It means no desperation, no clinging, no neediness.
It means you respect yourself enough to not go chasing after someone like a love-sick puppy.
So what kind of message should you leave?
Plain and simple: "Hi, it's Scott. Give me a call. My number is xxx-xxxx"
That's it.
If she doesn't call you back? Great!
You don't want someone like that anyway. She did you a huge favor by removing herself from your life.
Keep it real and you'll never live a lie.
Hell is right here on earth for those who live in delusion.
Yours in Warrior Wisdom,
Scott Bolan
And that standing solid on your own principle, which you need never sacrifice for a relationship, you attract...
... not seek, not woo, not supplicate, not acquire through expenditure...
... a soul-mate who is hotter-than-hell beautiful and who possesses your values and beliefs!
Too often our desire clouds our judgment, and we assign values onto the object of our desire, values which do not actually exist in the person.
A classic example of this is assigning high intelligence or moral integrity to beauty.
While beautiful women can be intelligent and moral, just as often they are not intelligent at all and rather shallow, and would be the first to tell you so...
...but why should they?
They are enjoying the ride - the dinners, the drinks, the gifts, the attention, praise and worship!
Don't forget that they too have an ego that craves to be fed, why would they rock the boat?
They will when "something better comes along" and you will be left desolate and despairing, sinking further into the hole of neediness.
To stay out of the trap, remember this Bolan Mastery Key:
Do Not Base Your Sense of Self-Worth on the Approval of Women.
Matter of fact, do not base your sense of self-worth on ANYONE's approval. Ever.
To have the approval of others should be respected and appreciated, but not actively sought after.
To seek after it is your ego's craving to be fed.
It should simply come naturally.
And if it doesn't come?...
.... do not notice!
You will find that if you are going about your business to be the very best you can be as a Master Warrior of Life, the right one will notice you and reach out.
I always noticed when I looked like I was going somewhere, it got the attention of the beautiful women. Why? Because all the other guys are feeding at the troff like cattle....
....and here comes a stallion, going somewhere!
That is far more interesting energetically!
It "magnetizes"
Always remember these two things:
1. People Are Energy
2. People Are Magnets
Now, I received a question recently: "What should I say on her answering machine so that she will call me back?"
I use Bill O'Reilly's No-Spin-Zone rule: "If I leave a message twice, and they do not call me back, I do not call them again."
That's a great rule.
It means no desperation, no clinging, no neediness.
It means you respect yourself enough to not go chasing after someone like a love-sick puppy.
So what kind of message should you leave?
Plain and simple: "Hi, it's Scott. Give me a call. My number is xxx-xxxx"
That's it.
If she doesn't call you back? Great!
You don't want someone like that anyway. She did you a huge favor by removing herself from your life.
Keep it real and you'll never live a lie.
Hell is right here on earth for those who live in delusion.
Yours in Warrior Wisdom,
Scott Bolan
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Firewall for the Brain
You have a firewall for your computer.
You have anti-virus software and spyware removal for your computer.
Why?
Because there are constant attacks, and constant new attacks being developed to hack into your computer.
What makes you think YOUR BRAIN is any different than your computer?
Just like viruses and spyware, there are "programs" that are developed to "hack" into your brain and take what they want.
After they've taken what they want, they leave your "computer" not operating very well, and getting dire results or just barely working at all!
You see, these programs literally set you up to fail, lose and self-destruct, after they've silently robbed you of your greatest force - your power for manifestation!
They get you to doubt yourself, to be cynical, negative, or confused, to freeze up when you should make a move.
If they get you to simply not make a winning move, they win and you lose!
I don't know about you, but me...
... I'd rather WIN!
Winning this game of life is what it's all about, and I'm damn well not going to let any programming stop me from winning.
How about you?
If you're like me and you are determined to keep the mind-poison out and win the game, the one-on-one Mind Power training you get in the Speed Summit Home Study Course is like having a Black Belt Firewall for your Brain!
No more worry....
No more fear...
No more stress...
No more confusion...
No more lack!
No more being ill-at-ease!
Instead, with the knowledge YOU GET in these seminar DVDs, you'll instantly discover
Unstoppable confidence...
Courage and certainty...
Skills you can rely on...
Manifestation Mastery...
Healing...
How to Move like a Tiger, and be respected everywhere you go...
Lion-sized Personal Magnetism...become unstoppable!
... and, discover Abundant resources!
Listen, this is the best of 3 world-class trainers,one-on-one answering questions live...
... and all I can say is, it just doesn't get any better than that!
Grab your "firewall" here at a steal of a price
I promise you, you'll be glad you did.
Yours in Warrior Wisdom,
Scott Bolan
Get Yours Here
You have anti-virus software and spyware removal for your computer.
Why?
Because there are constant attacks, and constant new attacks being developed to hack into your computer.
What makes you think YOUR BRAIN is any different than your computer?
Just like viruses and spyware, there are "programs" that are developed to "hack" into your brain and take what they want.
After they've taken what they want, they leave your "computer" not operating very well, and getting dire results or just barely working at all!
You see, these programs literally set you up to fail, lose and self-destruct, after they've silently robbed you of your greatest force - your power for manifestation!
They get you to doubt yourself, to be cynical, negative, or confused, to freeze up when you should make a move.
If they get you to simply not make a winning move, they win and you lose!
I don't know about you, but me...
... I'd rather WIN!
Winning this game of life is what it's all about, and I'm damn well not going to let any programming stop me from winning.
How about you?
If you're like me and you are determined to keep the mind-poison out and win the game, the one-on-one Mind Power training you get in the Speed Summit Home Study Course is like having a Black Belt Firewall for your Brain!
No more worry....
No more fear...
No more stress...
No more confusion...
No more lack!
No more being ill-at-ease!
Instead, with the knowledge YOU GET in these seminar DVDs, you'll instantly discover
Unstoppable confidence...
Courage and certainty...
Skills you can rely on...
Manifestation Mastery...
Healing...
How to Move like a Tiger, and be respected everywhere you go...
Lion-sized Personal Magnetism...become unstoppable!
... and, discover Abundant resources!
Listen, this is the best of 3 world-class trainers,one-on-one answering questions live...
... and all I can say is, it just doesn't get any better than that!
Grab your "firewall" here at a steal of a price
I promise you, you'll be glad you did.
Yours in Warrior Wisdom,
Scott Bolan
Get Yours Here
Friday, May 1, 2009
Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child, Attention ALL you Children
What kind of rod did your parents use on you. The metaphor is strong and what is the real message. I think every person want to find their soul mate, settle down, have children and raise their children in such a way that the kids have an opportunity to have it easier than they did, to go farther than they did, to experience more than they did. How they do that raises many questions. How much do you give your children? How do you insure that they earn it? How do you instill responsibility in them? The metaphor was not intended to be taken literally, meaning that if you don’t whip or beat your children they will grow up to be spoiled. However, there are several lessons children need to learn. There are consequences for their actions. There are responsibilities that need to be taught and expected.
If you are driving and forget to put gas in your car, then it will stop. If you run out of gas, you can cuss, you can pray, you can meditate, you can do anything you want and the only thing that will work is to put gas in the tank. Or you can simply say, I forgot to put gas in the car, now I am paying the consequences. And I will learn a lesson and go on.
So many people today are not taking responsibility for their life. They are blaming the government, the economy, wall street, the banks or the company they DID work for.
A call yesterday was from a young man talking about how he was investing in himself at this time. He said he knew his situation was getting better since he had started making that investment. In the next breath, he said he could not purchase any more right now because he had to wait for things to get better economically.
There was another young man who graduated from welding school 8 months ago. He has worked 14 days total since for three different companies and go let go by each. He has continued to make excuses about not taking a lesser job and when the stimulus kicks in he will be in the gravy. What will it take to wake him up? When do those who are supporting him wake up and stop?
If you are one of those who are procrastinating then WAKE UP. The knowledge and inner strength gained from the truly applied NLP, Hypnosis, Huna and Martial Arts is very believable and doable. The TOOLS exists. The technologies taken separately are absolutely mind changing. When they are taken together, consequences and responsibility take on a beautiful and brilliantly new meaning.
Despair becomes aspire for you.
Dr YJC
If you are driving and forget to put gas in your car, then it will stop. If you run out of gas, you can cuss, you can pray, you can meditate, you can do anything you want and the only thing that will work is to put gas in the tank. Or you can simply say, I forgot to put gas in the car, now I am paying the consequences. And I will learn a lesson and go on.
So many people today are not taking responsibility for their life. They are blaming the government, the economy, wall street, the banks or the company they DID work for.
A call yesterday was from a young man talking about how he was investing in himself at this time. He said he knew his situation was getting better since he had started making that investment. In the next breath, he said he could not purchase any more right now because he had to wait for things to get better economically.
There was another young man who graduated from welding school 8 months ago. He has worked 14 days total since for three different companies and go let go by each. He has continued to make excuses about not taking a lesser job and when the stimulus kicks in he will be in the gravy. What will it take to wake him up? When do those who are supporting him wake up and stop?
If you are one of those who are procrastinating then WAKE UP. The knowledge and inner strength gained from the truly applied NLP, Hypnosis, Huna and Martial Arts is very believable and doable. The TOOLS exists. The technologies taken separately are absolutely mind changing. When they are taken together, consequences and responsibility take on a beautiful and brilliantly new meaning.
Despair becomes aspire for you.
Dr YJC
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