Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Just a short while ago I had an unusually negative experience which requires me to confess.
Actually, I've been building to this negative experience for days, without consciously realizing.
You see, as I have preached time and again, you have to daily practice the attitudes, beliefs, energy and yes (I know this sounds "New Age") patterns of breathing that give you the confidence and charisma to attract women, anytime, anywhere, often without evening opening your mouth first!
But, the past week, I've been so-fired up, attending to some great new ideas for my business that I have not been practicing what I preach.
Yes, your good Old Guru of Poon deserves a well placed kick in his ass for being a hypocrite and NOT practicing.
Well, today I got that kick.
You see, when I got up today, I just wasn't feeling "right". I was tired, cranky, not in touch with my usual energy, and as a result, when I was "sarging" this morning, having my daily Starbucks coffee
Every Sarge Fell Flat!
Yes, I confess. Even your Guru is a human and has to practice, all the time, to stay in the best state of mind.
And your state of mind; your energy, beliefs and the attitude your project are very important.
They are like the conductive medium; the wire if you will-across which you send the electricity of your spoken words.
So don't be a goof like me. Practice what I teach you, daily. Do the breathing, the meditation, and the visualizations daily(and take care of your body with some good exercise too) and you will see daily results that will astonish you.
And if you want to find out more about how to radiate a confidence, charisma and energy that has women approaching you, just go right here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp
You'll learn a quick, ten minute, daily breathing/energy/visualizing ritual that will make you a true winner with women. And don't be a lazy, good-for-nuthin' ass like your Guru sometimes is.
GET OUT THERE AND DO IT!
Piece and peace,
RJ
P.S. If you already radiate with confidence and just want some amazing ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere, get my most current popular product that the students are raving about-my Gold Walk Up DVD.
Just go here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
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Monday, March 21, 2011
Ouch, That Hurt
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
The other day, I was doing some fabulous Combat Conditioning exercises, as taught by the incredible Matt Furey.
Being a fairly sedentary (a big word that means lazy ass) person, having a quick, fun work-out that I can do that actually makes me functionally fit, really feels good.
But today, contrary to Matt's advice, I over did it a bit, and as a result, I'm pretty sore.
Now, what in the world does this have to do with pulling hot women?
Simply this; in the beginning, when starting something new, pace yourself.
Look, as a human, you can learn to do pretty much anything, IF you do things gradually.
Too many guys, when they order their Speed Seduction Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp) TRY to jump in and do the hardest stuff first.
For example, even if they haven't had a woman in a decade or even talked to one in the same length of time, they want to go right out, approach the hottest woman in town, and try to get her in the sack in a matter of minutes.
Now, far be it from me to discourage ambition, and using Speed Seduction® you can and will get these kind of results.
But my stronger suggestion is: start out slow. Take one or two basic concepts from the course, and apply them every day. Even if you only improve 1 percent a day, by the end of a couple of months, you'll be bouncing from girl to girl like a rabbit on a double frappucinno mocha latte, extra whip!
Anyway, if you want the power, confidence and charm to pick the women you choose, instead of relying on canned pick-up lines, trite dating tips and stupid dating advice, why don't you learn to throw dating away and get the women you want jumping on you before you even go out? Thousands of guys around the world are doing so right now, and the first step is going right here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp.
Piece and peace,
RJ
P.S. If you are already smoking the tuna like crazy with your Home Study Course, it's time to step up to the advanced leagues and get my most powerful of all seduction courses.
Just go here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp
and check out my Secrets of Hyper-Response video/DVD series.
P.P.S. I'm not kidding. This one is NOT for beginners and you will not be allowed to order it unless you already own a Home Study Course.
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
The other day, I was doing some fabulous Combat Conditioning exercises, as taught by the incredible Matt Furey.
Being a fairly sedentary (a big word that means lazy ass) person, having a quick, fun work-out that I can do that actually makes me functionally fit, really feels good.
But today, contrary to Matt's advice, I over did it a bit, and as a result, I'm pretty sore.
Now, what in the world does this have to do with pulling hot women?
Simply this; in the beginning, when starting something new, pace yourself.
Look, as a human, you can learn to do pretty much anything, IF you do things gradually.
Too many guys, when they order their Speed Seduction Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp) TRY to jump in and do the hardest stuff first.
For example, even if they haven't had a woman in a decade or even talked to one in the same length of time, they want to go right out, approach the hottest woman in town, and try to get her in the sack in a matter of minutes.
Now, far be it from me to discourage ambition, and using Speed Seduction® you can and will get these kind of results.
But my stronger suggestion is: start out slow. Take one or two basic concepts from the course, and apply them every day. Even if you only improve 1 percent a day, by the end of a couple of months, you'll be bouncing from girl to girl like a rabbit on a double frappucinno mocha latte, extra whip!
Anyway, if you want the power, confidence and charm to pick the women you choose, instead of relying on canned pick-up lines, trite dating tips and stupid dating advice, why don't you learn to throw dating away and get the women you want jumping on you before you even go out? Thousands of guys around the world are doing so right now, and the first step is going right here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp.
Piece and peace,
RJ
P.S. If you are already smoking the tuna like crazy with your Home Study Course, it's time to step up to the advanced leagues and get my most powerful of all seduction courses.
Just go here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp
and check out my Secrets of Hyper-Response video/DVD series.
P.P.S. I'm not kidding. This one is NOT for beginners and you will not be allowed to order it unless you already own a Home Study Course.
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Friday, March 18, 2011
200 Women In One Night!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names.
What could please me more than that, you ask?
No, not the entire UCLA Women's Volleyball team suddenly deciding that hugging me nasty in the dark is an obsession they HAVE to fulfill (Although I do love the UCLA Women's Volleyball team!)
No, what pleases me most is hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.
Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin' loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.
So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I'm about as proud as a hillbilly daddy in a roomful of virgin 13 year olds!
So, imagine my good feelings when I got the following email:
Hi Ross,
I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you - especially the newer SS students.
After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.
After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things were off to a great start - the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING GUYS.
I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp
Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING - he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.
After this, women were approaching him, and there was no more fear of approaches - he hit the100 openers mark by the end of the night.
Then came Selig.
This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.
After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.
Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.
I'm sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.
John Stein - Cork, Ireland
John, what can I say? A huge "right on" for helping out
your fellow Speed Seduction ® students. May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist relief!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say? Then check out:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp
and
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
And let me know when you top meeting 100 women a night!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names.
What could please me more than that, you ask?
No, not the entire UCLA Women's Volleyball team suddenly deciding that hugging me nasty in the dark is an obsession they HAVE to fulfill (Although I do love the UCLA Women's Volleyball team!)
No, what pleases me most is hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.
Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin' loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.
So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I'm about as proud as a hillbilly daddy in a roomful of virgin 13 year olds!
So, imagine my good feelings when I got the following email:
Hi Ross,
I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you - especially the newer SS students.
After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.
After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things were off to a great start - the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING GUYS.
I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp
Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING - he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.
After this, women were approaching him, and there was no more fear of approaches - he hit the100 openers mark by the end of the night.
Then came Selig.
This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.
After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.
Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.
I'm sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.
John Stein - Cork, Ireland
John, what can I say? A huge "right on" for helping out
your fellow Speed Seduction ® students. May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist relief!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say? Then check out:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp
and
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
And let me know when you top meeting 100 women a night!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Monday, March 14, 2011
Getting Off Auto-Pilot And Becoming Super-Free And Aware!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
As you know, the incredible, life-changing Speed Life seminar comes up in October/November in a very sunny place. (Yes, it really is as beautiful as all the pictures and yes, the pretty girls really DO love foreigners!)
Anyway, since these seminars promise to be almost overwhelming in the amount of personal improvement and personal influence methods and secrets, I wanted to give you the jump-start by giving you some drills you can get started on RIGHT NOW!
These aren't required.
But they will help you hit the ground running when you get here.
BTW, if you haven't booked a room and want some advice on that, call Yates: 1-903-482-1034)
Anyway, as I have said over and over, one of the major keys to living the life of your dreams is...
.......Recognizing and Getting Off Of Auto-Pilot!
Remember, most people are walking around IN TRANCE. And even more importantly, the trances they walk around in...trances of fear..of limitation...of doubt of lack....
..............Really Do Not Serve Them!
Actually, these trances DO serve someone. They serve the "power structure" that profits and feeds off of a society of weak, programmed, obedient and fearful robots, who will look to the "authorities" on how to live an "ok" life.
Getting Off Of Autopilot..Now..Today!
One of the big pieces of getting off of autopilot and having real choice, is becoming aware of your fixed patterns of perception, response, action, etc.
To develop this "meta" awareness is a powerful tool to peel away old, trapped ways of thinking, acting and responding and believing. It makes it MUCH easier to move up ANY learning curve for any skill set.
You see, technical skill IS important. But many people offer fairly good models for technical skill(how to sell, how to seduce, how to get fit, etc) in different areas of life, yet few people get real changes or the huge leaps they want from following this advice.
Sometimes, the advice is lacking(as is the case with my rip-off, cheap-jack, bullshit imitators and "competitors")
But just as often, even with good "advice" and good model for new technical skills, the person trying to follow this advice has a bigger problem: they want to really change an area of life that has been deeply emotionally challenging, evoking lots of fear, self-doubt, personal limits etc.
What can often happen is that the new advice, new skills, new ways of thinking, feeling, acting and believing are filtered THROUGH the old emotions, experiences, beliefs, etc
This means that people seldom consistently will act out the new skills from the right frame of mind. They will be fighting themselves, their old habits, tendencies, etc.
A metaphor I use is, if I give you a pair of glasses dipped in dog shit, EVERYTHING WILL LOOK BROWN. That is why methods that assist in building clear, unfettered awareness can help us keep old responses, beliefs, behaviors, choices at bay and "in the freezer" LONG enough for new way to take hold, and long enough for us to move up new learning curves because we can see the new skills, beliefs, responses THROUGH CLEAR EYES
This is doubly necessary when the new ways are very different from the old ways and require major shifts. Remember, the further something stands from how you are used to acting, thinking, feeling and believing, the greater the chance for HUGE leaps. Also, the greater the chance for old ways to leap back up, unless you have a practice and discipline to deal with them.
I'll say that again: practice and discipline. Onward... Anything you do to bring your habitual patterns into your awareness(without anger, fear or reaction) is useful. This is why I am challenging you to go from one extreme to another and to pay attention to flows of feeling that trigger all of it; the awareness of feeling flow is key to knowing when you are slipping into old patterns of behavior and is also key to designing in NEW ones!
How To Use Breath And Energy To Immediately Set You Free!
Does this make sense? Now, here is the next exercise to do: As you know, I talk alot about a spot on the body located about 2-3 inches below the navel, between the navel and the public bone. If you've studied any martial arts, occult or "esoteric" disciplines, this spot is called different names: the kanda, the t'an t'ien, the hara, etc. Without getting into intricate explanations, you just need to view it as a major power center in the body and a major awareness center as well. So....stand upright. Feet planted about 2 feet apart. Take a deep inhale, and as you do, imagine the breath is moving in a soft line of energy feeling down the front of your body and swirling in the t'an t'ien. It doesn't matter if it is clockwise or counter-clockwise. Find out which works best for you.
Exhale by pulling your belly toward your spine and as you do, send strong line of energy from the small of your back up the center of your spine, out through the top of your head.
(By the way, you can go to the website and see a free video that will show you exactly how to do this...
http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp
Click that link. Scroll down the page to the second to the last video. You will see me demonstrating this with myself and teaching it to a student.
And if you want to learn more about doing this, I highly recommend my Fear Into Charisma video/DVD. Just click here to find out more:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp)
Onward
Do this breath about ten times. Now..as you go through your day, whenever you talk to people, focus on that inhale going to the hara, and put your focus and awareness there as you feel the energy swirl. You don't need to work about the exhale, except when you are alone, doing the ten breaths.
Out in the world, just focus on your awareness and breath in the hara. Notice how it changes your awareness and perception of people. Don't change anything else in your behavior. Just notice what you notice:
What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in yourself? What patterns of response/behavior can you notice in yourself, BEFORE they actually get manifested in your behavior...can you catch some "auto-pilots" that are now just considerations that you can actually put aside? Don't try to MAKE this happen..just notice if it does?
What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in other people? What specifically do you notice about how they respond to authority/power and how they exert authority/power with others? Can you notice which of their behaviors are "auto-pilot" and which appear more freely chosen?
Anyway, I look forward to seeing you at Speed Life, and I can't wait to also introduce you to the "Super-Team" of other amazing trainers.
Peace and Piece,
RJ
P.S. In the event that you have NOT yet signed up for Speed Life... jeez...I don't know when or even IF I'll ever assemble this great a team of super-trainers again. You'd better call Yates NOW for more information: 1-580-366-5820. Or email him at yatescanipe@yahoo.com
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
As you know, the incredible, life-changing Speed Life seminar comes up in October/November in a very sunny place. (Yes, it really is as beautiful as all the pictures and yes, the pretty girls really DO love foreigners!)
Anyway, since these seminars promise to be almost overwhelming in the amount of personal improvement and personal influence methods and secrets, I wanted to give you the jump-start by giving you some drills you can get started on RIGHT NOW!
These aren't required.
But they will help you hit the ground running when you get here.
BTW, if you haven't booked a room and want some advice on that, call Yates: 1-903-482-1034)
Anyway, as I have said over and over, one of the major keys to living the life of your dreams is...
.......Recognizing and Getting Off Of Auto-Pilot!
Remember, most people are walking around IN TRANCE. And even more importantly, the trances they walk around in...trances of fear..of limitation...of doubt of lack....
..............Really Do Not Serve Them!
Actually, these trances DO serve someone. They serve the "power structure" that profits and feeds off of a society of weak, programmed, obedient and fearful robots, who will look to the "authorities" on how to live an "ok" life.
Getting Off Of Autopilot..Now..Today!
One of the big pieces of getting off of autopilot and having real choice, is becoming aware of your fixed patterns of perception, response, action, etc.
To develop this "meta" awareness is a powerful tool to peel away old, trapped ways of thinking, acting and responding and believing. It makes it MUCH easier to move up ANY learning curve for any skill set.
You see, technical skill IS important. But many people offer fairly good models for technical skill(how to sell, how to seduce, how to get fit, etc) in different areas of life, yet few people get real changes or the huge leaps they want from following this advice.
Sometimes, the advice is lacking(as is the case with my rip-off, cheap-jack, bullshit imitators and "competitors")
But just as often, even with good "advice" and good model for new technical skills, the person trying to follow this advice has a bigger problem: they want to really change an area of life that has been deeply emotionally challenging, evoking lots of fear, self-doubt, personal limits etc.
What can often happen is that the new advice, new skills, new ways of thinking, feeling, acting and believing are filtered THROUGH the old emotions, experiences, beliefs, etc
This means that people seldom consistently will act out the new skills from the right frame of mind. They will be fighting themselves, their old habits, tendencies, etc.
A metaphor I use is, if I give you a pair of glasses dipped in dog shit, EVERYTHING WILL LOOK BROWN. That is why methods that assist in building clear, unfettered awareness can help us keep old responses, beliefs, behaviors, choices at bay and "in the freezer" LONG enough for new way to take hold, and long enough for us to move up new learning curves because we can see the new skills, beliefs, responses THROUGH CLEAR EYES
This is doubly necessary when the new ways are very different from the old ways and require major shifts. Remember, the further something stands from how you are used to acting, thinking, feeling and believing, the greater the chance for HUGE leaps. Also, the greater the chance for old ways to leap back up, unless you have a practice and discipline to deal with them.
I'll say that again: practice and discipline. Onward... Anything you do to bring your habitual patterns into your awareness(without anger, fear or reaction) is useful. This is why I am challenging you to go from one extreme to another and to pay attention to flows of feeling that trigger all of it; the awareness of feeling flow is key to knowing when you are slipping into old patterns of behavior and is also key to designing in NEW ones!
How To Use Breath And Energy To Immediately Set You Free!
Does this make sense? Now, here is the next exercise to do: As you know, I talk alot about a spot on the body located about 2-3 inches below the navel, between the navel and the public bone. If you've studied any martial arts, occult or "esoteric" disciplines, this spot is called different names: the kanda, the t'an t'ien, the hara, etc. Without getting into intricate explanations, you just need to view it as a major power center in the body and a major awareness center as well. So....stand upright. Feet planted about 2 feet apart. Take a deep inhale, and as you do, imagine the breath is moving in a soft line of energy feeling down the front of your body and swirling in the t'an t'ien. It doesn't matter if it is clockwise or counter-clockwise. Find out which works best for you.
Exhale by pulling your belly toward your spine and as you do, send strong line of energy from the small of your back up the center of your spine, out through the top of your head.
(By the way, you can go to the website and see a free video that will show you exactly how to do this...
http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp
Click that link. Scroll down the page to the second to the last video. You will see me demonstrating this with myself and teaching it to a student.
And if you want to learn more about doing this, I highly recommend my Fear Into Charisma video/DVD. Just click here to find out more:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp)
Onward
Do this breath about ten times. Now..as you go through your day, whenever you talk to people, focus on that inhale going to the hara, and put your focus and awareness there as you feel the energy swirl. You don't need to work about the exhale, except when you are alone, doing the ten breaths.
Out in the world, just focus on your awareness and breath in the hara. Notice how it changes your awareness and perception of people. Don't change anything else in your behavior. Just notice what you notice:
What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in yourself? What patterns of response/behavior can you notice in yourself, BEFORE they actually get manifested in your behavior...can you catch some "auto-pilots" that are now just considerations that you can actually put aside? Don't try to MAKE this happen..just notice if it does?
What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in other people? What specifically do you notice about how they respond to authority/power and how they exert authority/power with others? Can you notice which of their behaviors are "auto-pilot" and which appear more freely chosen?
Anyway, I look forward to seeing you at Speed Life, and I can't wait to also introduce you to the "Super-Team" of other amazing trainers.
Peace and Piece,
RJ
P.S. In the event that you have NOT yet signed up for Speed Life... jeez...I don't know when or even IF I'll ever assemble this great a team of super-trainers again. You'd better call Yates NOW for more information: 1-580-366-5820. Or email him at yatescanipe@yahoo.com
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
How To *Lock In* Lasting Self-Confidence With Women!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Over the years, I've had a chance to look at what really
makes permanent, large, personal change possible. I've
watched thousands of guys use my methods to go very rapidly
from no confidence with women at all, to ease, power, grace
and fun with all the women they could possibly desire.
And one of the big things they had in common, in addition
to buying and using my products, is…
......Consistency!
They didn't just listen to my products once, or give it a
few tries.
No.
They immersed themselves in the material.
In fact, I've gotten many reports of guys going so far as
to have my, videos, cd's and tapes playing all the time in
every room of their house, apartment or hotel, no matter the
time of day, on multiple tape players, VHS's etc.
Other students (including some of my current top guys)
have said that they took long drives out of town, often
hundreds of miles each way, with the tapes or CD's playing the
entire trip.
Now, personally, I don't think I could stand listening to
my own voice that much!
But immersing yourself in the material, in fact, immersing
yourself when it comes to any truly new way of thinking and
feeling and acting, is probably…
.................A Damn Fine Idea!
Remember, one of my key rules for success and power with
women, which I've repeated over and over:
Use Your Language To Capture And Lead Her Imagination And
Emotions!
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Well, the same is true with changing yourself. You've got
to learn to capture and lead your own imagination and emotions
on a consistent basis to take you where you really want to
go! And then follow up with your external behavior, in the
real world, with women!
Anyway, yesterday I got an email from someone who brought
up this very issue. So let's here from this devoted
client/reader:
"Hey Ross, I know you probably get a million emails a day,
but I felt the need to take the time to thank you for the work
you've put in to Speed Seduction and the Unstoppable
Confidence series. I've only received SS 2 days ago, but just
by listening to your exercises on visualization and overcoming
fear and shyness, I can already tell it's having an effect on
the way I perceive myself.
If you happen to get through this and feel like replying,
I'm just wondering if it's normal to feel sort of...hollow, or
feel almost a blank emptiness after doing these exercises?
Seriously, after I listen and study for a while I feel like
I've completely erased a part of myself and it takes a little
getting used to but goes away after a while. Any idea what
I'm talking about, or am I just convincing myself that I
should feel different?
Again, thanks a million and I promise to study hard and
practice as often as I possibly can. :)
-Tim T. New Castle, PA "
Tim,
Thanks for the kind words. I personally love the
Unstoppable Confidence tapes. They are one of our all time
best sellers, and still, over a decade after I created them in
1994, they stand up as one of my finest products.
While it's great that only after 2 days you are already
noticing some good effects, bear in mind that it takes a while
for big changes to take hold and feel real.
That's not to say you aren't changing already. You are.
It just takes a while for new feelings, new thoughts and new
behaviors to "feel like the real you". Most studies show
that, in fact, the time period for new ways of thinking,
feeling and acting to "set" and feel "natural" is 21 days.
My suggestion is to keep on listening to the UC Tapes and
keep doing the exercises. It takes some consistent(but not
heroic or hard) effort to get change going. And for goodness
sakes, make sure you are a member of the Speed Seduction
on-line discussion group where you can get 24 hour support,
encouragement and ANSWERS to your questions! Yours for free
when you buy your Delux or Basic Home Study Course. Just click
here at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
That's it for this issue. Keep practicing, keep capturing
imagination and emotion (your own and womens') and keep on
keeping on!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Your success with women is waiting for you. Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Over the years, I've had a chance to look at what really
makes permanent, large, personal change possible. I've
watched thousands of guys use my methods to go very rapidly
from no confidence with women at all, to ease, power, grace
and fun with all the women they could possibly desire.
And one of the big things they had in common, in addition
to buying and using my products, is…
......Consistency!
They didn't just listen to my products once, or give it a
few tries.
No.
They immersed themselves in the material.
In fact, I've gotten many reports of guys going so far as
to have my, videos, cd's and tapes playing all the time in
every room of their house, apartment or hotel, no matter the
time of day, on multiple tape players, VHS's etc.
Other students (including some of my current top guys)
have said that they took long drives out of town, often
hundreds of miles each way, with the tapes or CD's playing the
entire trip.
Now, personally, I don't think I could stand listening to
my own voice that much!
But immersing yourself in the material, in fact, immersing
yourself when it comes to any truly new way of thinking and
feeling and acting, is probably…
.................A Damn Fine Idea!
Remember, one of my key rules for success and power with
women, which I've repeated over and over:
Use Your Language To Capture And Lead Her Imagination And
Emotions!
****************************************************
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If you want incredible success with women, why not purchase
your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course today? Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
**********************************************************
Well, the same is true with changing yourself. You've got
to learn to capture and lead your own imagination and emotions
on a consistent basis to take you where you really want to
go! And then follow up with your external behavior, in the
real world, with women!
Anyway, yesterday I got an email from someone who brought
up this very issue. So let's here from this devoted
client/reader:
"Hey Ross, I know you probably get a million emails a day,
but I felt the need to take the time to thank you for the work
you've put in to Speed Seduction and the Unstoppable
Confidence series. I've only received SS 2 days ago, but just
by listening to your exercises on visualization and overcoming
fear and shyness, I can already tell it's having an effect on
the way I perceive myself.
If you happen to get through this and feel like replying,
I'm just wondering if it's normal to feel sort of...hollow, or
feel almost a blank emptiness after doing these exercises?
Seriously, after I listen and study for a while I feel like
I've completely erased a part of myself and it takes a little
getting used to but goes away after a while. Any idea what
I'm talking about, or am I just convincing myself that I
should feel different?
Again, thanks a million and I promise to study hard and
practice as often as I possibly can. :)
-Tim T. New Castle, PA "
Tim,
Thanks for the kind words. I personally love the
Unstoppable Confidence tapes. They are one of our all time
best sellers, and still, over a decade after I created them in
1994, they stand up as one of my finest products.
While it's great that only after 2 days you are already
noticing some good effects, bear in mind that it takes a while
for big changes to take hold and feel real.
That's not to say you aren't changing already. You are.
It just takes a while for new feelings, new thoughts and new
behaviors to "feel like the real you". Most studies show
that, in fact, the time period for new ways of thinking,
feeling and acting to "set" and feel "natural" is 21 days.
My suggestion is to keep on listening to the UC Tapes and
keep doing the exercises. It takes some consistent(but not
heroic or hard) effort to get change going. And for goodness
sakes, make sure you are a member of the Speed Seduction
on-line discussion group where you can get 24 hour support,
encouragement and ANSWERS to your questions! Yours for free
when you buy your Delux or Basic Home Study Course. Just click
here at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
That's it for this issue. Keep practicing, keep capturing
imagination and emotion (your own and womens') and keep on
keeping on!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Your success with women is waiting for you. Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Friday, January 28, 2011
How To Get Unstuck And Going Strong With Speed Seduction®!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Many times, beginning students have said or written to me,
"I'm just having trouble getting started with this stuff. It's
not that I'm really shy or anything...it's just that this way of
talking seems SO strange to me."
Now listen; I am very aware that a first introduction to
Speed Seduction® can seem overwhelming and also a little, well,
ooky.
After all, if a guy walked up to you and talked to you the
way I am teaching you to talk to women, you'd probably call the
cops or punch him in the mouth. Perhaps if you were an extra
compassionate person, you'd refer him to a mental health clinic
for counseling.
Look, I'm very, very aware that the ways I'm teaching you to
communicate with women seem very strange. Further I'm here to
tell you..
....THEY SHOULD SEEM STRANGE TO YOU!
*******************************************
ADVERTISEMENT
To check out the latest Speed Seduction® products
to super-charge your love life, go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products.asp
*******************************************
Is this a contradiction?? How could something that could
help you have success with women beyond your wildest
fantasies..something that could take that old, rusty stuck door
of not getting anywhere or having to "settle" and...
...Make It Swing Wide Open With Excitement, Passion And The
Connections With They Kind Of Women You've Always Wanted.
Well, here is the secret in a nut-shell: women think about
and process language DIFFERENTLY.
We men tend to process words and language through the left
brain. But scientific studies, using brain scans have shown that
women process the same words and phrases using the left AND
right brains; that the same language that evokes little or no
emotional response from men, evokes massive emotional response
from women.
This means that the language that seems funny, bizarre or
off to you, will be processed by women in a way that opens the
deep, emotional, suggestive structures of their minds.
Now, don't get me wrong. All humans, male or female, are
subject to great emotional response, based on symbols. Just
think of the strong emotions that rush through you when you are
traveling in a foreign land and you see the American flag.(This
could be good or bad, depending what country you are from-since
my students come from all around the world, I have to be
careful!)
Of when you hear your countries national anthem. Or when you
see the sun finally come out on a clear day after a long bout of
darkness and rain.
These symbols and events evoke emotion, strongly, in ALL
humans. It is simply that women also happen to have strong
responses to language, spoken and written, that we men simply
usually don't.
What does this really mean for you? That if you can push
past your initial responses that this stuff may seem odd or
weird and instead, understand HOW it works, go out and give it a
try, then....
....The Results You Will See Will Astonish You!
A couple of quick metaphors to help you understand this.
When you go fishing, if you were to go fishing, would you bait
the hook with YOUR favorite snack foods because worms or
crawdads would taste bad to you?
No. You would bait it with what the FISH bites on and
desires.
Finally, supposing you were driving on a country road, late
at night, and a UFO landed right in front of you. Out stepped an
alien from a very advanced species. You knew that if you could
communicate with him, he would unveil incredible technology to
you that could solve world hunger, bring unlimited wealth,
riches, and happiness to the world, end disease, and make your
own personal dreams come true and more. He could unlock the
answer to any question, but..
He didn't speak a word of any language on earth!
Instead, you had to learn to speak to him in HIS language,
something that seemed at first like gibberish, hard to
pronounce, and not making any sense to you.
Would you refuse his offer of a device that would teach you,
in a few weeks, to speak to him in his own tongue, just because
it felt weird and made no sense to you?
Or would you take his language machine, learn to speak to
him in a way that HE understood and responded to, and...
...COLLECT TREASURES AND TECHNOLOGY BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS?
Now look: women are NOT aliens. But sometimes, the way they
process language, words and emotions can make us FEEL like they
are from another planet. Speed Seduction® will hand you that
universal translator/language machine so you can take them on
journeys OUT OF THIS WORLD!
Peace and piece,
Ross Jeffries
P.S. If you want to unstuck yourself and really get kicking
ass with Speed Seduction®, check out this product from
my top student and co-trainer, Dave Riker! It is flying off
our shelves!
http://www.daveriker.com/ssmanual/index.html
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Many times, beginning students have said or written to me,
"I'm just having trouble getting started with this stuff. It's
not that I'm really shy or anything...it's just that this way of
talking seems SO strange to me."
Now listen; I am very aware that a first introduction to
Speed Seduction® can seem overwhelming and also a little, well,
ooky.
After all, if a guy walked up to you and talked to you the
way I am teaching you to talk to women, you'd probably call the
cops or punch him in the mouth. Perhaps if you were an extra
compassionate person, you'd refer him to a mental health clinic
for counseling.
Look, I'm very, very aware that the ways I'm teaching you to
communicate with women seem very strange. Further I'm here to
tell you..
....THEY SHOULD SEEM STRANGE TO YOU!
*******************************************
ADVERTISEMENT
To check out the latest Speed Seduction® products
to super-charge your love life, go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products.asp
*******************************************
Is this a contradiction?? How could something that could
help you have success with women beyond your wildest
fantasies..something that could take that old, rusty stuck door
of not getting anywhere or having to "settle" and...
...Make It Swing Wide Open With Excitement, Passion And The
Connections With They Kind Of Women You've Always Wanted.
Well, here is the secret in a nut-shell: women think about
and process language DIFFERENTLY.
We men tend to process words and language through the left
brain. But scientific studies, using brain scans have shown that
women process the same words and phrases using the left AND
right brains; that the same language that evokes little or no
emotional response from men, evokes massive emotional response
from women.
This means that the language that seems funny, bizarre or
off to you, will be processed by women in a way that opens the
deep, emotional, suggestive structures of their minds.
Now, don't get me wrong. All humans, male or female, are
subject to great emotional response, based on symbols. Just
think of the strong emotions that rush through you when you are
traveling in a foreign land and you see the American flag.(This
could be good or bad, depending what country you are from-since
my students come from all around the world, I have to be
careful!)
Of when you hear your countries national anthem. Or when you
see the sun finally come out on a clear day after a long bout of
darkness and rain.
These symbols and events evoke emotion, strongly, in ALL
humans. It is simply that women also happen to have strong
responses to language, spoken and written, that we men simply
usually don't.
What does this really mean for you? That if you can push
past your initial responses that this stuff may seem odd or
weird and instead, understand HOW it works, go out and give it a
try, then....
....The Results You Will See Will Astonish You!
A couple of quick metaphors to help you understand this.
When you go fishing, if you were to go fishing, would you bait
the hook with YOUR favorite snack foods because worms or
crawdads would taste bad to you?
No. You would bait it with what the FISH bites on and
desires.
Finally, supposing you were driving on a country road, late
at night, and a UFO landed right in front of you. Out stepped an
alien from a very advanced species. You knew that if you could
communicate with him, he would unveil incredible technology to
you that could solve world hunger, bring unlimited wealth,
riches, and happiness to the world, end disease, and make your
own personal dreams come true and more. He could unlock the
answer to any question, but..
He didn't speak a word of any language on earth!
Instead, you had to learn to speak to him in HIS language,
something that seemed at first like gibberish, hard to
pronounce, and not making any sense to you.
Would you refuse his offer of a device that would teach you,
in a few weeks, to speak to him in his own tongue, just because
it felt weird and made no sense to you?
Or would you take his language machine, learn to speak to
him in a way that HE understood and responded to, and...
...COLLECT TREASURES AND TECHNOLOGY BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS?
Now look: women are NOT aliens. But sometimes, the way they
process language, words and emotions can make us FEEL like they
are from another planet. Speed Seduction® will hand you that
universal translator/language machine so you can take them on
journeys OUT OF THIS WORLD!
Peace and piece,
Ross Jeffries
P.S. If you want to unstuck yourself and really get kicking
ass with Speed Seduction®, check out this product from
my top student and co-trainer, Dave Riker! It is flying off
our shelves!
http://www.daveriker.com/ssmanual/index.html
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Monday, January 24, 2011
How To Turn That *Friend* Into Your Devoted Lover!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
It's truly amazing the questions I get.
I guess since this newsletter goes around the world and
reaches guys from every walk of life, from every kind of
culture, In every age range, you'd think guys have different
problems with women.
But when it comes to women, I've learned, we are pretty much
the same.
We all face pretty much the same challenges.
We are all pretty much trying to figure out the same
puzzles.
Now, here is a question I have seen many times. I'll let the
reader speak in his own voice:
"My name is XXX and I am 18 and from Ireland. I think your
material is absolutely fantastic and it has thought me so many
little things in which you should never, ever do with women! And
for that I thank you most grateful .I don't know where you
learned all of this but it really is great.
I have a problem though, and I know you are probably a very
busy man who won't reply to this but I am going to write it none
the less. I am completely falling for one of my friends. I feel
a very strong sexual attraction towards her, perhaps stronger
than I have ever felt before. I have never been closer to a
girl. We talk for hours, we are very physically close when we
are with each other but I think she may be afraid of abandoning
friendship. This is a serious gripe in my side. Is there
anything I could do effectively to bring out her true feelings
and desires without blatantly asking her? I suppose I want to
know how do you tell when a girl gets close to you whether she
is a friend or something more."
Ok, Mr. X.
The first thing to realize is, even if this girl is totally
attracted to you, to the point where she is having nightly
fantasies about you and her doing the nasty "grown-up" thang,
there is just about zero chance, especially given her young age,
that she is going to make the first physical move.
Sorry, but that just isn't the way it works.
I really wish it weren't the case that we guys almost always
have to go first.
But that is how it works.
So if you were hoping for her to make a move, or tell you
herself, it's unlikely to happen.
Now, even if she is afraid of "losing the friendship" that
doesn't mean you have to let her fears dictate where you or her
are going to go.
As I have said before, one of the key aspects of being a
leader with women, is to see where they are at, without having
to go there for yourself.
That is, you can understand her emotions, without having to
take them on for yourself.
Her fear is just that; H-E-R-S.
Stand your ground, and set the lead
Does that make sense?
Now, having set that, there are some things you can do to
accelerate this sexually and see just where you really stand.
First of all, let me tell you what I do NOT recommend.
I do NOT recommend suddenly grabbing and kissing her.
Why?
It's too rough a jump.
To go from zero contact to erotic contact(like kissing) is
just too abrupt.
So I would recommend you do some testing of her physical
boundaries first.
Now, it just so happens, women have 3 "erotic hot spots"
that seem like totally innocent places to touch.
These are:
1. The back of the neck 2. The small of the back 3. The
palm(and thumb)
(By the way, if you want to see free video clips of me
demonstrating the first two spots on a very hot female subject,
just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp)
Anyway, here is what you can do:
When you are talking to her, get up to go to the bathroom,
but as you do, reach out, and with the palm of your hand, gently
rub the back of your neck(as I illustrate on the free video on
the website).
Notice her response. If she inhales sharply, moans with
pleasure, melts under your touch, then you are on your way!
Another thing you can do is to offer to read her palm.
Don't' ask me how to do palm reading; go to the library and get
a book on it.
Anyway, you can mostly make it up. Tell her her palm shows
she is lonely. Trace your finger on her palm and tell her that
her love line is very strong, that she has strong desires.
Explain also that the palm is a strong energy center, then take
your thumb and rub her palm with your thumb.
If you see her get the "doggy dinner bowl" look; the look
that says, "kiss me now" then lean in and kiss her! If she pulls
back, don't apologize! Just look at her and say, "hmmm…it just
seemed like you needed it"!
Another thing to do(also illustrated on the website) is to
put your palm briefly on the small of her back when you are
walking somewhere. Don't keep it there. Just use it to guide her
briefly and then take it away. The small of the back is a strong
sexual energy center.
The best advice is: learn from this. Don't be too attached
to this outcome with this girl. Remember this belief;
I either get what I want, or learn what I need to in order
to get what I want or even BETTER, next time.
If you see all of this through the filter of THAT belief,
you will do way better with this girl than if you HAVE to "win".
Good luck, and let us know how it turns out.
Piece and Peace,
RJ
P.S. Want real success with women? Your Speed Seduction(R) Home Study course is waiting for you! Go here, now:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
It's truly amazing the questions I get.
I guess since this newsletter goes around the world and
reaches guys from every walk of life, from every kind of
culture, In every age range, you'd think guys have different
problems with women.
But when it comes to women, I've learned, we are pretty much
the same.
We all face pretty much the same challenges.
We are all pretty much trying to figure out the same
puzzles.
Now, here is a question I have seen many times. I'll let the
reader speak in his own voice:
"My name is XXX and I am 18 and from Ireland. I think your
material is absolutely fantastic and it has thought me so many
little things in which you should never, ever do with women! And
for that I thank you most grateful .I don't know where you
learned all of this but it really is great.
I have a problem though, and I know you are probably a very
busy man who won't reply to this but I am going to write it none
the less. I am completely falling for one of my friends. I feel
a very strong sexual attraction towards her, perhaps stronger
than I have ever felt before. I have never been closer to a
girl. We talk for hours, we are very physically close when we
are with each other but I think she may be afraid of abandoning
friendship. This is a serious gripe in my side. Is there
anything I could do effectively to bring out her true feelings
and desires without blatantly asking her? I suppose I want to
know how do you tell when a girl gets close to you whether she
is a friend or something more."
Ok, Mr. X.
The first thing to realize is, even if this girl is totally
attracted to you, to the point where she is having nightly
fantasies about you and her doing the nasty "grown-up" thang,
there is just about zero chance, especially given her young age,
that she is going to make the first physical move.
Sorry, but that just isn't the way it works.
I really wish it weren't the case that we guys almost always
have to go first.
But that is how it works.
So if you were hoping for her to make a move, or tell you
herself, it's unlikely to happen.
Now, even if she is afraid of "losing the friendship" that
doesn't mean you have to let her fears dictate where you or her
are going to go.
As I have said before, one of the key aspects of being a
leader with women, is to see where they are at, without having
to go there for yourself.
That is, you can understand her emotions, without having to
take them on for yourself.
Her fear is just that; H-E-R-S.
Stand your ground, and set the lead
Does that make sense?
Now, having set that, there are some things you can do to
accelerate this sexually and see just where you really stand.
First of all, let me tell you what I do NOT recommend.
I do NOT recommend suddenly grabbing and kissing her.
Why?
It's too rough a jump.
To go from zero contact to erotic contact(like kissing) is
just too abrupt.
So I would recommend you do some testing of her physical
boundaries first.
Now, it just so happens, women have 3 "erotic hot spots"
that seem like totally innocent places to touch.
These are:
1. The back of the neck 2. The small of the back 3. The
palm(and thumb)
(By the way, if you want to see free video clips of me
demonstrating the first two spots on a very hot female subject,
just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp)
Anyway, here is what you can do:
When you are talking to her, get up to go to the bathroom,
but as you do, reach out, and with the palm of your hand, gently
rub the back of your neck(as I illustrate on the free video on
the website).
Notice her response. If she inhales sharply, moans with
pleasure, melts under your touch, then you are on your way!
Another thing you can do is to offer to read her palm.
Don't' ask me how to do palm reading; go to the library and get
a book on it.
Anyway, you can mostly make it up. Tell her her palm shows
she is lonely. Trace your finger on her palm and tell her that
her love line is very strong, that she has strong desires.
Explain also that the palm is a strong energy center, then take
your thumb and rub her palm with your thumb.
If you see her get the "doggy dinner bowl" look; the look
that says, "kiss me now" then lean in and kiss her! If she pulls
back, don't apologize! Just look at her and say, "hmmm…it just
seemed like you needed it"!
Another thing to do(also illustrated on the website) is to
put your palm briefly on the small of her back when you are
walking somewhere. Don't keep it there. Just use it to guide her
briefly and then take it away. The small of the back is a strong
sexual energy center.
The best advice is: learn from this. Don't be too attached
to this outcome with this girl. Remember this belief;
I either get what I want, or learn what I need to in order
to get what I want or even BETTER, next time.
If you see all of this through the filter of THAT belief,
you will do way better with this girl than if you HAVE to "win".
Good luck, and let us know how it turns out.
Piece and Peace,
RJ
P.S. Want real success with women? Your Speed Seduction(R) Home Study course is waiting for you! Go here, now:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Monday, January 17, 2011
When To Be Sexually Aggressive With Women
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is
students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but
tend to choke at “the closing”.
That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle
stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.
But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they
drop the ball.
In fact, just recently, I received the following email from
a student:
"Ross, The last two newsletters were awesome.
I have had your home study course for a while, but have been
tripping over my own dick for the last year.
I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the
state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed
opportunities because I am used to being "shy" to make the move.
My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice
looking 18 year old. I banged her mom using the blammo pattern,
and then her mom set me up with her daughter.
I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and
she kissed me. I still didn't close the deal!! Sounds pretty
sad huh?
This kind of interaction has happened time and time again,
even before I bought your course.
The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset
after the fact. I am willing to do what you outlined in the new
letters in order to become a more calm and confident version of
myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not
after the fact.
Am I the only student you have had that can't close the deal
when the girl kisses him?
Thank you in advance for your response."
Your humble student,
Paul Ruggerio, Eaton Rapids, MI
Ok, Paul, and all of the rest of you who may have this
issue:
Let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and
making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on
or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.
In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating
periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up
even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.
In hypnosis, we call this fractionation. Simply put, you
put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put
them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.
Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to
have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.
I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being
physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a
plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they
will be FAR more receptive when you turn the heat back on.
So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s
actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes,
then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off
to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and
come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and
then resume.
We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off
straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.
Now, as for why this student didn’t get more aggressive, I
think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns
actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger
than we are used to getting.
Over the years I have seen this happen with many students:
the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect
it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do.
As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery
ticket in your hand and you are staring at the numbers because
you can’t believe you won!
I remember one story in particular, about a student who had
just gotten his Home Study Course and used some patterns on an
attractive woman at his church social.
She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she
jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then
said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”
The student said, “But the pastor is going to be come out
with the congregation any minute!”
She said, “I don’t the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang
me!”
Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the
job, so he wound up having to take a rain check!
The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success!
Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a
woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.
Now, another issue is that sometimes women who are turned on
and do want you will suddenly pull up short and have some last
minute resistance to doing the “grown-up”.
We’ll explore THAT one in the next issue.
‘Til then,
Peace and piece
Ross Jeffries
P.S. You can have all the success with women you’ve ever
wanted right now, by going to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is
students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but
tend to choke at “the closing”.
That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle
stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.
But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they
drop the ball.
In fact, just recently, I received the following email from
a student:
"Ross, The last two newsletters were awesome.
I have had your home study course for a while, but have been
tripping over my own dick for the last year.
I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the
state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed
opportunities because I am used to being "shy" to make the move.
My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice
looking 18 year old. I banged her mom using the blammo pattern,
and then her mom set me up with her daughter.
I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and
she kissed me. I still didn't close the deal!! Sounds pretty
sad huh?
This kind of interaction has happened time and time again,
even before I bought your course.
The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset
after the fact. I am willing to do what you outlined in the new
letters in order to become a more calm and confident version of
myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not
after the fact.
Am I the only student you have had that can't close the deal
when the girl kisses him?
Thank you in advance for your response."
Your humble student,
Paul Ruggerio, Eaton Rapids, MI
Ok, Paul, and all of the rest of you who may have this
issue:
Let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and
making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on
or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.
In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating
periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up
even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.
In hypnosis, we call this fractionation. Simply put, you
put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put
them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.
Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to
have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.
I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being
physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a
plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they
will be FAR more receptive when you turn the heat back on.
So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s
actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes,
then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off
to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and
come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and
then resume.
We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off
straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.
Now, as for why this student didn’t get more aggressive, I
think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns
actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger
than we are used to getting.
Over the years I have seen this happen with many students:
the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect
it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do.
As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery
ticket in your hand and you are staring at the numbers because
you can’t believe you won!
I remember one story in particular, about a student who had
just gotten his Home Study Course and used some patterns on an
attractive woman at his church social.
She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she
jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then
said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”
The student said, “But the pastor is going to be come out
with the congregation any minute!”
She said, “I don’t the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang
me!”
Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the
job, so he wound up having to take a rain check!
The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success!
Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a
woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.
Now, another issue is that sometimes women who are turned on
and do want you will suddenly pull up short and have some last
minute resistance to doing the “grown-up”.
We’ll explore THAT one in the next issue.
‘Til then,
Peace and piece
Ross Jeffries
P.S. You can have all the success with women you’ve ever
wanted right now, by going to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Friday, January 14, 2011
Three Students Share Shocking Seduction Success!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the great joys of doing this job is getting the
emails and testimonials from guys just like you who are using
my material to really turn their love lives around and
transform their success with women.
Now, the best ones are from students who are really just
trying things out for the first time, and interestingly
enough, even though they've read the newsletters, understood
the courses and material the first few times they try this
stuff ……
.........They Don't Even Believe It's Going To Work!
No, that wasn't a misprint or a typo. I said they don't
(as in do NOT) believe this stuff is going to work!
In fact, I have seen from my experience, time and time
again, when guys first try this stuff, they usually DON'T
believe in it precisely because it IS so different from the
way 99% of most guys have been taught to think, feel and act
around women.
A Key Understanding If You REALLY Want To Change!
You see, there is a huge paradox in creating real, massive
change, in any area of your life. Once you get this key
understanding, you will be on your way to massive success at
changing virtually anything (and not just with women), no
matter what system or method you might try. So pay attention,
and get this, because here it is it is:
The Methods For Success That Are Closest To What You Are
Already Doing Seem The Easiest To Try, But Offer the Least
Potential For Huge Change , Because They Are So Close To What
You Are Already Thinking, Acting, Believing And Doing!
What this comes down to, is the whole idea of "the comfort
zone". When you stay in your "comfort zone" and just do what
you are used to, it is pretty easy, yet doing what you are
used to (and thinking and believing as you have been used to)
is what has been keeping you stuck.
Thinking, believing and acting very differently can bring
you rapid and massive results, but it CAN at first feel
uncomfortable unless you have some special "technology" to get
you around that "difference".
Anyway, being able to try out brand new ways of doing
things, and to do so with a sense of enjoyment, exploration
and fun, instead of anxiety and fear, is one of the unique
technological breakthroughs that Speed Seduction® brings to
you, in addition to the actual material for meeting and
rapidly turning on women!
SS is the only system that has been offering these tested,
proven tools for self-transformation to men for the past
decade, and I am very proud of that!
So, that out of the way, let me share 2 recent emails from
you, from some happy and successful NEW students:
Ye Gods!
I have to share this with somebody, and I'm afraid you
guys are going to have to take the brunt of it...
I went out tonight on a field trip. I'd spent most [nay,
all...] of my free time over the last few weeks burying
myself in the Basic SS CDs & literature. I'm not ashamed to
admit that I've pranced around my apartment daily, like an
idiot, rehearsing patterns and "Doing the affirmations."
I went out tonight, met some friends in a noisy pub [not
the ideal environment, for sure...], but with the
single-minded determination to try this stuff out for real.
Cutting to the chase: I saw a slim, blonde HB surrounded
by drooling buffoons. Throwing caution to the wind [have you
ever tried doing that?], I dived on in. I caught her eye,
smiled, opened with a bit of low-key banter and she said:
"I am from Germany. My English, it's not very good..."
She was a foreign exchange student who'd only been in the
country for a few weeks.
Needless to say, my initial though was: "Jesus Christ on a
Pogo-Stick! Destiny has truly tied my shoelaces together!" But
within seconds I thought: "Fuggit - let's try this shit out,
anyhow..."
So I ran a variation of the Instantaneous Connection
pattern on her. I riffed in some embedded commands. And I
did it all very, very, very slowly. In that terrible mixed-up
syntax that English-speaking people invariably use when
talking to people from other countries. And you know what?
It worked an absolute treat!
We somehow ended up talking about German expletives.
After a few rubbishy attempts at getting my tongue around
[ahem!] the German equivalent of 'Son of a bitch' we moved
onto more fruity translations.
Let's just say, without prompting, she told me what the
German word for "c*nt" is - she made it clear that this wasn't
the 'biological' term, but the taboo variant. And she was
really determined that I got the pronunciation right...
Last orrders arrived, and -without so much as a hint of
supplication -I [slowly, with bad syntax] explained to her
that it was a tragic, shame that our conversation had to end,
and that it was an awful, awful shame that we can't go on
learning new things about each other's language. She reached
into her handbag, pulled out her mobile [cellphone] and
demanded that we exchange numbers...
I'm still in a state of shock. I can't get my hat on.
Must run! I urgently need to check out some
German-English translation sites...
Tomas G, City and state withheld, by request
Dear SS List Brothers,
Just wanted to say hi to everybody on the list & look
forward to a long and learning relationship,
I am new to this and have been applying the Twin Brothers
pattern Ross told us to try after the UK SS seminar this
September 2004,
The other day I used this pattern on a sexy Italian
manageress of a restaurant I had talked to her on a couple of
occasions before this evening, anyway while I was 1/2 way
through I couldn't believe her response, she chose the kisser
rather than someone who makes her laugh & then held my hand
and started to talk about how she felt during sex. I almost
fell of my chair, my colleague couldn't believe it either,
(he's coming to the next seminar) I left it there because I
was punch drunk with the response & delighted that it worked.
I have seen her again and have her number I will let you
know how I get on.
THANKS ROSS
Tim Cooke
London, England
Thanks Tomas and Tim!
Now, do you notice what each of these guys have in common?
Very simple: they had the balls to try something new and
different, without even being sure of the result.
They got the results, by stepping out of their comfort
zone!
So how about you, dear reader? How about you?
Til next time,
Peace and Piece,
Ross
P.S. Get results like these guys and better by getting
your Speed Seduction® Home Study course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
One of the great joys of doing this job is getting the
emails and testimonials from guys just like you who are using
my material to really turn their love lives around and
transform their success with women.
Now, the best ones are from students who are really just
trying things out for the first time, and interestingly
enough, even though they've read the newsletters, understood
the courses and material the first few times they try this
stuff ……
.........They Don't Even Believe It's Going To Work!
No, that wasn't a misprint or a typo. I said they don't
(as in do NOT) believe this stuff is going to work!
In fact, I have seen from my experience, time and time
again, when guys first try this stuff, they usually DON'T
believe in it precisely because it IS so different from the
way 99% of most guys have been taught to think, feel and act
around women.
A Key Understanding If You REALLY Want To Change!
You see, there is a huge paradox in creating real, massive
change, in any area of your life. Once you get this key
understanding, you will be on your way to massive success at
changing virtually anything (and not just with women), no
matter what system or method you might try. So pay attention,
and get this, because here it is it is:
The Methods For Success That Are Closest To What You Are
Already Doing Seem The Easiest To Try, But Offer the Least
Potential For Huge Change , Because They Are So Close To What
You Are Already Thinking, Acting, Believing And Doing!
What this comes down to, is the whole idea of "the comfort
zone". When you stay in your "comfort zone" and just do what
you are used to, it is pretty easy, yet doing what you are
used to (and thinking and believing as you have been used to)
is what has been keeping you stuck.
Thinking, believing and acting very differently can bring
you rapid and massive results, but it CAN at first feel
uncomfortable unless you have some special "technology" to get
you around that "difference".
Anyway, being able to try out brand new ways of doing
things, and to do so with a sense of enjoyment, exploration
and fun, instead of anxiety and fear, is one of the unique
technological breakthroughs that Speed Seduction® brings to
you, in addition to the actual material for meeting and
rapidly turning on women!
SS is the only system that has been offering these tested,
proven tools for self-transformation to men for the past
decade, and I am very proud of that!
So, that out of the way, let me share 2 recent emails from
you, from some happy and successful NEW students:
Ye Gods!
I have to share this with somebody, and I'm afraid you
guys are going to have to take the brunt of it...
I went out tonight on a field trip. I'd spent most [nay,
all...] of my free time over the last few weeks burying
myself in the Basic SS CDs & literature. I'm not ashamed to
admit that I've pranced around my apartment daily, like an
idiot, rehearsing patterns and "Doing the affirmations."
I went out tonight, met some friends in a noisy pub [not
the ideal environment, for sure...], but with the
single-minded determination to try this stuff out for real.
Cutting to the chase: I saw a slim, blonde HB surrounded
by drooling buffoons. Throwing caution to the wind [have you
ever tried doing that?], I dived on in. I caught her eye,
smiled, opened with a bit of low-key banter and she said:
"I am from Germany. My English, it's not very good..."
She was a foreign exchange student who'd only been in the
country for a few weeks.
Needless to say, my initial though was: "Jesus Christ on a
Pogo-Stick! Destiny has truly tied my shoelaces together!" But
within seconds I thought: "Fuggit - let's try this shit out,
anyhow..."
So I ran a variation of the Instantaneous Connection
pattern on her. I riffed in some embedded commands. And I
did it all very, very, very slowly. In that terrible mixed-up
syntax that English-speaking people invariably use when
talking to people from other countries. And you know what?
It worked an absolute treat!
We somehow ended up talking about German expletives.
After a few rubbishy attempts at getting my tongue around
[ahem!] the German equivalent of 'Son of a bitch' we moved
onto more fruity translations.
Let's just say, without prompting, she told me what the
German word for "c*nt" is - she made it clear that this wasn't
the 'biological' term, but the taboo variant. And she was
really determined that I got the pronunciation right...
Last orrders arrived, and -without so much as a hint of
supplication -I [slowly, with bad syntax] explained to her
that it was a tragic, shame that our conversation had to end,
and that it was an awful, awful shame that we can't go on
learning new things about each other's language. She reached
into her handbag, pulled out her mobile [cellphone] and
demanded that we exchange numbers...
I'm still in a state of shock. I can't get my hat on.
Must run! I urgently need to check out some
German-English translation sites...
Tomas G, City and state withheld, by request
Dear SS List Brothers,
Just wanted to say hi to everybody on the list & look
forward to a long and learning relationship,
I am new to this and have been applying the Twin Brothers
pattern Ross told us to try after the UK SS seminar this
September 2004,
The other day I used this pattern on a sexy Italian
manageress of a restaurant I had talked to her on a couple of
occasions before this evening, anyway while I was 1/2 way
through I couldn't believe her response, she chose the kisser
rather than someone who makes her laugh & then held my hand
and started to talk about how she felt during sex. I almost
fell of my chair, my colleague couldn't believe it either,
(he's coming to the next seminar) I left it there because I
was punch drunk with the response & delighted that it worked.
I have seen her again and have her number I will let you
know how I get on.
THANKS ROSS
Tim Cooke
London, England
Thanks Tomas and Tim!
Now, do you notice what each of these guys have in common?
Very simple: they had the balls to try something new and
different, without even being sure of the result.
They got the results, by stepping out of their comfort
zone!
So how about you, dear reader? How about you?
Til next time,
Peace and Piece,
Ross
P.S. Get results like these guys and better by getting
your Speed Seduction® Home Study course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
7 Power Attitudes To Skyrocket Your Success With Women!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
It's been said that "attitude" determines your "altitude".
In other words, the way you THINK about yourself and a subject
will be as important as what you do.
Well, let's not knock doing the right thing. Effective
action, especially with women, is REQUIRED.
However, your attitude is a big part of how attractive women
will find you. You can consider your attitude to be like the
conductive medium through which the electricity of your BEHAVIOR
will flow. If we take electric current and try to pass it
through:
a. A sheet of cardboard
b. A sheet of copper foil
Which will conduct the current best? Of course, you don't
need to be a physics major to answer: the copper foil. Just so,
your attitude with WOMEN will determine just how well your
"moves" are received. Doesn't that make sense?
With that in mind I give you:
POWER ATTITUDES for ultimate success with women.
1. Being with me is the best possible choice any woman can
make.
Now, can you prove that this is true? No, of course not. It
isn't a factual statement about an objective truth; it's a
position you choose to come from. Now, never verbalize this
attitude, for Christ sake. Don’t get right in a woman's face and
say, "being with me is the best choice you can make, baby. But
show it in how you act.
2. I consistently display the willingness to walk away.
This is one MOST "chumps" miss. You see, if a woman doesn't
get, somewhere in her mind, that she could POSSIBLY do something
to lose you, she will never really feel deep passion for you.
If you are ALWAYS there for her, no matter what, then in
the back of her mind, she will de-value you, to a greater or
lesser degree. Somewhere, somehow, in the back of her mind (or
even the front) she must realize that she COULD one day lose
you!
3. I give a woman a little bit of what she wants, and then
pull back and make her work for more.
As sad as it seems, if you are too giving to a woman, too
soon, you come off as hungry and needy and she just winds up
dumping you. You see, guys who are successful with women give a
free sample, but nice guy losers give away the store. You must,
no MUST learn to say "no", make yourself a little scarce and
unavailable, and keep her a little bit in doubt.
4. I always come from the place of being determined to do
what works.
So many times I've had people whine to me, "Why can't I just
be myself?" What that really means is, "I want to be lazy and do
what I've always done all along, even though it doesn't work!"
Look, to really win big in life, you have to be consistent.
And that means applying these principles, all the time, even
when you don't particularly feel like it, and especially if you
are in a slump.
5. I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with
women.
I can (and will) do a whole issue on this one, but basically
what I mean is to realize that if a woman accepts you, it
doesn't mean that the next one will, so stay on your toes, and
don't get lazy or sloppy. (See item #4 directly above)
And if she rejects you, it just means that the approach you
tried, at this particular time, with this particular woman,
hasn't worked...yet. It might work at another time with her, or
you may just need another approach. Even if it doesn't, as I
once told a friend of mine who only thought he saw me get
rejected... Dan, I never get rejected. I only discover if a
woman has good taste!!
6. I don't need to win all the time; I size up a woman's
potential and either go for it or move on and cut my losses
FAST.
Sometimes the best choice is just to say, "adios" and move
on. When you realize that you don't have to win all the time,
and then it takes the pressure off and you become much more
relaxed. Ironically, and paradoxically, this almost always leads
to your winning far more often than you ever imagined
possible!!!!
7. I never know what physical type a woman will go for so I
always for it congruently and powerfully.
Listen: women are much more individualistic in what they
like, physically speaking. I once had a gorgeous young thing
tell me that if Mel Gibson or Tom Cruise asked her out, she'd
say, "no" because she only liked tall, thin black men!! You just
don't know, so go for it anyway.
Aren't those just great? Can you imagine how great you'll do
with women when you have these attitudes down and are
manifesting them in your life?
Now, speaking of manifestation, I just had to include this
email testimonial I just recently received:
Dear Ross, Well my "dream girl" girlfriend who is ten years
younger then me proposed to me on Chritsmas Eve. I said yes of
course. The beautiful thing about SS is that it gives you the
tools to touch a woman in a beautiful way so much so that your
communications with her are able to take place on a whole
different level.
I have been on the list for seven years Thank you for
helping me provide the women I have come across with such a
beautiful gift!!!
Sean Morris, Los Angeles, CA
Sean, thank you. It’s great to see when someone finds some
true happiness, using the tools I’ve provided them. By the way,
the “list” Sean is speaking of is the Speed Seduction® yahoo
groups list, for Home Study Course owners only. We now have
close to 2,000 students, worldwide, forming a 24 hour community
to help with questions, challenges and to share successes! So
get your Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp and join the
community today! YOU ARE NOT ALONE ANYMORE!
‘Til next time,
Peace and piece,
Ross
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright
2004, Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be
reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior
consent, provided all content, including all links,
are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
It's been said that "attitude" determines your "altitude".
In other words, the way you THINK about yourself and a subject
will be as important as what you do.
Well, let's not knock doing the right thing. Effective
action, especially with women, is REQUIRED.
However, your attitude is a big part of how attractive women
will find you. You can consider your attitude to be like the
conductive medium through which the electricity of your BEHAVIOR
will flow. If we take electric current and try to pass it
through:
a. A sheet of cardboard
b. A sheet of copper foil
Which will conduct the current best? Of course, you don't
need to be a physics major to answer: the copper foil. Just so,
your attitude with WOMEN will determine just how well your
"moves" are received. Doesn't that make sense?
With that in mind I give you:
POWER ATTITUDES for ultimate success with women.
1. Being with me is the best possible choice any woman can
make.
Now, can you prove that this is true? No, of course not. It
isn't a factual statement about an objective truth; it's a
position you choose to come from. Now, never verbalize this
attitude, for Christ sake. Don’t get right in a woman's face and
say, "being with me is the best choice you can make, baby. But
show it in how you act.
2. I consistently display the willingness to walk away.
This is one MOST "chumps" miss. You see, if a woman doesn't
get, somewhere in her mind, that she could POSSIBLY do something
to lose you, she will never really feel deep passion for you.
If you are ALWAYS there for her, no matter what, then in
the back of her mind, she will de-value you, to a greater or
lesser degree. Somewhere, somehow, in the back of her mind (or
even the front) she must realize that she COULD one day lose
you!
3. I give a woman a little bit of what she wants, and then
pull back and make her work for more.
As sad as it seems, if you are too giving to a woman, too
soon, you come off as hungry and needy and she just winds up
dumping you. You see, guys who are successful with women give a
free sample, but nice guy losers give away the store. You must,
no MUST learn to say "no", make yourself a little scarce and
unavailable, and keep her a little bit in doubt.
4. I always come from the place of being determined to do
what works.
So many times I've had people whine to me, "Why can't I just
be myself?" What that really means is, "I want to be lazy and do
what I've always done all along, even though it doesn't work!"
Look, to really win big in life, you have to be consistent.
And that means applying these principles, all the time, even
when you don't particularly feel like it, and especially if you
are in a slump.
5. I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with
women.
I can (and will) do a whole issue on this one, but basically
what I mean is to realize that if a woman accepts you, it
doesn't mean that the next one will, so stay on your toes, and
don't get lazy or sloppy. (See item #4 directly above)
And if she rejects you, it just means that the approach you
tried, at this particular time, with this particular woman,
hasn't worked...yet. It might work at another time with her, or
you may just need another approach. Even if it doesn't, as I
once told a friend of mine who only thought he saw me get
rejected... Dan, I never get rejected. I only discover if a
woman has good taste!!
6. I don't need to win all the time; I size up a woman's
potential and either go for it or move on and cut my losses
FAST.
Sometimes the best choice is just to say, "adios" and move
on. When you realize that you don't have to win all the time,
and then it takes the pressure off and you become much more
relaxed. Ironically, and paradoxically, this almost always leads
to your winning far more often than you ever imagined
possible!!!!
7. I never know what physical type a woman will go for so I
always for it congruently and powerfully.
Listen: women are much more individualistic in what they
like, physically speaking. I once had a gorgeous young thing
tell me that if Mel Gibson or Tom Cruise asked her out, she'd
say, "no" because she only liked tall, thin black men!! You just
don't know, so go for it anyway.
Aren't those just great? Can you imagine how great you'll do
with women when you have these attitudes down and are
manifesting them in your life?
Now, speaking of manifestation, I just had to include this
email testimonial I just recently received:
Dear Ross, Well my "dream girl" girlfriend who is ten years
younger then me proposed to me on Chritsmas Eve. I said yes of
course. The beautiful thing about SS is that it gives you the
tools to touch a woman in a beautiful way so much so that your
communications with her are able to take place on a whole
different level.
I have been on the list for seven years Thank you for
helping me provide the women I have come across with such a
beautiful gift!!!
Sean Morris, Los Angeles, CA
Sean, thank you. It’s great to see when someone finds some
true happiness, using the tools I’ve provided them. By the way,
the “list” Sean is speaking of is the Speed Seduction® yahoo
groups list, for Home Study Course owners only. We now have
close to 2,000 students, worldwide, forming a 24 hour community
to help with questions, challenges and to share successes! So
get your Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp and join the
community today! YOU ARE NOT ALONE ANYMORE!
‘Til next time,
Peace and piece,
Ross
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Wednesday, December 29, 2010
7 Tips To Supercharge Your Speed Seduction® Success!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...
Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!
As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.
Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.
Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!
Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!
Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!
Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!
Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.
Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:
Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?
Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?
Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?
Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.
Piece and Peace
Ross
P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
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Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...
Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!
As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.
Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.
Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!
Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!
Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!
Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!
Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.
Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:
Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?
Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?
Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?
Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.
Piece and Peace
Ross
P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
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Wednesday, December 22, 2010
7 Tips To Supercharge Your Speed Seduction® Success!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...
Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!
As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.
Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.
Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!
Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!
Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!
Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!
Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.
Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:
Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?
Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?
Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?
Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.
Piece and Peace
Ross
P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...
Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!
As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.
Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.
Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!
Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!
Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!
Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!
Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.
Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:
Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?
Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?
Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?
Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.
Piece and Peace
Ross
P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
He Planned To Approach 100 Women!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Every once in a while I get such good emails from students,
there's nothing better I can do than to simply let THEM do the
talking.
What you are about to read comes from the special "Speed
Seduction®" customer forum; a list of nearly 2,000 people world
wide who have purchased a Speed Seduction® Home Study Course and
daily discuss their challenges, breakthroughs, questions and
experiments. I’m very proud of this resource I provide, because
it lets students not only talk with me, but with each other, and
having that community supporting your learning can be a big
boost of confidence.
With that in mind, here’s a student’s progress report he
posted on his plans to approached 100 women. Pay special
attention to his brilliant advice on overcoming the fear of
“failure”.
************************************************************
Dear Ross and seduction brothers,
From talking with the awesome brothers in the Boston area it
became obvious from their comments that the only way to get
better at walk-ups is to do a lot of them. So Eric suggested
this approach, which worked very well: choose a number of
walk-ups to do, and go with the EXPECTATION of getting shot
down.
That's somewhat paradoxical but that's what makes it work.
So I set my goal at a 100. I've already done 50, and this is the
half-time report.
It's been FANTASTIC (aside from getting enthusiastic phone
numbers from women who even have boyfriends and very positive
responses). Going with the expectation of let me get another one
on my list makes things a WHOLE LOT easier. There's no hurt, no
rejection, it's just another notch. "Here goes number 33."
INSTEAD of going with the goal of I am going to get this
many phone numbers, and feeling good/bad depending on the
outcome, go with the goal I'm just going to have fun getting
shot down this many times and learning. Then, it's piece of cake
to learn.
SET a concrete number of approaches you want, and do it. You
WILL be successful at doing that.
Basically, now, I feel comfortable approaching almost any
woman under any condition (the train, a coffee shop, etc.). It
really is a LEAP from where I was before.
My state is infinitely more solid... and while I can get
better with very attractive women, I lead with much greater
ease, I deal with most objections right away, and I'm able to
instill comfort/ease/trust almost instantaneously.
I can only imagine what will happen when I get to 100. But
I'm not worried about that... I just need to get 50 more under
my belt.
(Techniques That Helped Him Do It!)
Now here're a few techniques you may want to use: Talking
with other SSers: I cannot say enough about this. The Boston
team is great, and posting/reading up people's SS postings while
doing the above is both encouraging as well as enlightening. I
just want to thank the thoughtful people who post quality emails
... some of us really appreciate it.
Self-reward and -analysis: Always pat yourself in the back
after making an approach or every few approaches. It works. It
sounds funny but you feel better when you tell yourself 'good
job' and give yourself a pat in the back.
Every say 5 approaches analyze what you did... think how you
could have done it concretely better... and replay in your mind
how you'd have done it. DON'T analyze every time, do it every
say 5 times.
Women are random and if you analyze it each time you'll NOT
see the real pattern. No pun intended. :) But the exercise
(AGAIN) is not to get better, although you naturally will, but
just to get across the X number of getting shot-down.
Fear of failure and safety: Early on I sat down and asked
myself what in the world was holding me back from approaching
beautiful (physically, intellectually, spiritually) women and
making their lives sheer beauty, wonder, delight... and I
realized... it was just a simple fear of failing.
What if I make a fool out of myself? What if I fall on my
face? What if I just annoy her? Being someone who's successful
at a lot of things he's tried in life this was a BIG one.
But then after some thought I realized it was a paradox. THE
BIGGEST FAILURE IS TO FEAR FAILURE. If you fear failure, then
you're GUARANTEED to fail every time.
Think about it. Think about this for long enough and it'll
BLOW your mind AND any fear of failure you have out of the
water. DRILL on any such feelings with this paradox.
If you fear failure, YOU WILL FAIL EACH AND EVERY TIME. It's
a complete guarantee. So THAT FEAR IS ITSELF the BIGGEST
FAILURE.
Secondly, often we want to be 'safe.' But usually, safe from
what?? Safe from success, safe from learning how to move women
in ways that may astonish us. Do you want to be safe from
success? Really? Think about your whole life ... do you want to
be safe repeating that SAME pattern?
If these are issues for you, I'd try meditate on these two
ideas, after some breathing exercises, and you may find, like I
did, that meditation affecting your whole life timeline, going
to the deepest crevices of your being, and you will be
decontaminated from those thoughts in a couple hours or days.
Don't be surprised to see your whole physiology changing.
This is not just pattern language... my whole body felt it. Use
the titanium drill of the paradoxes to destroy those filthy
mental microbes.
Best regards, Stephen/Angelo
************************************************************
Ok. Ross here again. This student really got it when he
talked about the paradox of fearing failure actually being the
biggest guarantee of failure.
You see, as I have said before, it is the meaning you assign
to things that determines how you will feel about them. If you
assign the meaning that you MUST “succeed” with every beautiful
girl you see, you are going to drive yourself nuts with all
sorts of unneeded fear and stress.
When you assign the right meaning to things; that you are
just practicing and you are intending to fall on your face, just
to practice, suddenly it loses its importance and paradoxically,
you do a lot better with a lot less effort.
My own personal beliefs about meeting and seducing women
are, “Let’s go have some fun with her and find out what she’s
like” and “I will either get what I want or learn what I need to
in order to get what I want or even better next time”.
Try THOSE on for size, and see what happens to any fear of
approaching women.
‘Til next time.
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. Hey...you can jump start YOUR success with women and join our Speed Seduction® online community as well. Membership is free when you purchase your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course! Just go to http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Every once in a while I get such good emails from students,
there's nothing better I can do than to simply let THEM do the
talking.
What you are about to read comes from the special "Speed
Seduction®" customer forum; a list of nearly 2,000 people world
wide who have purchased a Speed Seduction® Home Study Course and
daily discuss their challenges, breakthroughs, questions and
experiments. I’m very proud of this resource I provide, because
it lets students not only talk with me, but with each other, and
having that community supporting your learning can be a big
boost of confidence.
With that in mind, here’s a student’s progress report he
posted on his plans to approached 100 women. Pay special
attention to his brilliant advice on overcoming the fear of
“failure”.
************************************************************
Dear Ross and seduction brothers,
From talking with the awesome brothers in the Boston area it
became obvious from their comments that the only way to get
better at walk-ups is to do a lot of them. So Eric suggested
this approach, which worked very well: choose a number of
walk-ups to do, and go with the EXPECTATION of getting shot
down.
That's somewhat paradoxical but that's what makes it work.
So I set my goal at a 100. I've already done 50, and this is the
half-time report.
It's been FANTASTIC (aside from getting enthusiastic phone
numbers from women who even have boyfriends and very positive
responses). Going with the expectation of let me get another one
on my list makes things a WHOLE LOT easier. There's no hurt, no
rejection, it's just another notch. "Here goes number 33."
INSTEAD of going with the goal of I am going to get this
many phone numbers, and feeling good/bad depending on the
outcome, go with the goal I'm just going to have fun getting
shot down this many times and learning. Then, it's piece of cake
to learn.
SET a concrete number of approaches you want, and do it. You
WILL be successful at doing that.
Basically, now, I feel comfortable approaching almost any
woman under any condition (the train, a coffee shop, etc.). It
really is a LEAP from where I was before.
My state is infinitely more solid... and while I can get
better with very attractive women, I lead with much greater
ease, I deal with most objections right away, and I'm able to
instill comfort/ease/trust almost instantaneously.
I can only imagine what will happen when I get to 100. But
I'm not worried about that... I just need to get 50 more under
my belt.
(Techniques That Helped Him Do It!)
Now here're a few techniques you may want to use: Talking
with other SSers: I cannot say enough about this. The Boston
team is great, and posting/reading up people's SS postings while
doing the above is both encouraging as well as enlightening. I
just want to thank the thoughtful people who post quality emails
... some of us really appreciate it.
Self-reward and -analysis: Always pat yourself in the back
after making an approach or every few approaches. It works. It
sounds funny but you feel better when you tell yourself 'good
job' and give yourself a pat in the back.
Every say 5 approaches analyze what you did... think how you
could have done it concretely better... and replay in your mind
how you'd have done it. DON'T analyze every time, do it every
say 5 times.
Women are random and if you analyze it each time you'll NOT
see the real pattern. No pun intended. :) But the exercise
(AGAIN) is not to get better, although you naturally will, but
just to get across the X number of getting shot-down.
Fear of failure and safety: Early on I sat down and asked
myself what in the world was holding me back from approaching
beautiful (physically, intellectually, spiritually) women and
making their lives sheer beauty, wonder, delight... and I
realized... it was just a simple fear of failing.
What if I make a fool out of myself? What if I fall on my
face? What if I just annoy her? Being someone who's successful
at a lot of things he's tried in life this was a BIG one.
But then after some thought I realized it was a paradox. THE
BIGGEST FAILURE IS TO FEAR FAILURE. If you fear failure, then
you're GUARANTEED to fail every time.
Think about it. Think about this for long enough and it'll
BLOW your mind AND any fear of failure you have out of the
water. DRILL on any such feelings with this paradox.
If you fear failure, YOU WILL FAIL EACH AND EVERY TIME. It's
a complete guarantee. So THAT FEAR IS ITSELF the BIGGEST
FAILURE.
Secondly, often we want to be 'safe.' But usually, safe from
what?? Safe from success, safe from learning how to move women
in ways that may astonish us. Do you want to be safe from
success? Really? Think about your whole life ... do you want to
be safe repeating that SAME pattern?
If these are issues for you, I'd try meditate on these two
ideas, after some breathing exercises, and you may find, like I
did, that meditation affecting your whole life timeline, going
to the deepest crevices of your being, and you will be
decontaminated from those thoughts in a couple hours or days.
Don't be surprised to see your whole physiology changing.
This is not just pattern language... my whole body felt it. Use
the titanium drill of the paradoxes to destroy those filthy
mental microbes.
Best regards, Stephen/Angelo
************************************************************
Ok. Ross here again. This student really got it when he
talked about the paradox of fearing failure actually being the
biggest guarantee of failure.
You see, as I have said before, it is the meaning you assign
to things that determines how you will feel about them. If you
assign the meaning that you MUST “succeed” with every beautiful
girl you see, you are going to drive yourself nuts with all
sorts of unneeded fear and stress.
When you assign the right meaning to things; that you are
just practicing and you are intending to fall on your face, just
to practice, suddenly it loses its importance and paradoxically,
you do a lot better with a lot less effort.
My own personal beliefs about meeting and seducing women
are, “Let’s go have some fun with her and find out what she’s
like” and “I will either get what I want or learn what I need to
in order to get what I want or even better next time”.
Try THOSE on for size, and see what happens to any fear of
approaching women.
‘Til next time.
Peace and piece,
Ross
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Tuesday, December 7, 2010
How To Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part I
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?
Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”
Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.
Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.
But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.
You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).
Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..
Relationships By Default!
You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.
Does this sound familiar?
Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.
Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.
Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.
But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.
The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions
Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"
The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".
The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!
What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.
The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"
The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.
Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.
As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.
That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"
Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.
The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment
With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.
Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."
See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.
But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!
This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!
Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question
The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.
The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.
(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).
Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).
Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)
Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"
Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."
Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.
I said, "It's too short."
She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.
I said, "No, it's too short."
She said, "What is?"
I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."
She smiled and said, "Thank you!"
I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"
This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.
My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.
A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."
By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.
Approach Position 3: The Put-On
Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".
Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"
At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.
Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.
I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?
I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"
She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.
If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.
One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.
So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."
My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"
At that point, SHE began a conversation.
There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".
Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition
The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?
In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.
This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"
It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.
Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice, instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp today!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?
Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”
Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.
Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.
But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.
You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).
Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..
Relationships By Default!
You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.
Does this sound familiar?
Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.
Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.
Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.
But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.
The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions
Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"
The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".
The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!
What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.
The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"
The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.
Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.
As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.
That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"
Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.
The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment
With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.
Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."
See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.
But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!
This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!
Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question
The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.
The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.
(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).
Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).
Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)
Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"
Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."
Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.
I said, "It's too short."
She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.
I said, "No, it's too short."
She said, "What is?"
I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."
She smiled and said, "Thank you!"
I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"
This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.
My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.
A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."
By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.
Approach Position 3: The Put-On
Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".
Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"
At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.
Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.
I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?
I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"
She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.
If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.
One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.
So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."
My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"
At that point, SHE began a conversation.
There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".
Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition
The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?
In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.
This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"
It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.
Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice, instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp today!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Monday, August 9, 2010
Assertiveness Part 3
Communication skills are a KEY to being assertive. Become AWARE of:
WHAT YOU SAY
* Be Specific, not general. "I have taken on more responsibilities - purchasing and supervising - and I think I should be compensated accordingly". NOT "You should give me a raise"
* Stay calm, becoming emotional or bringing up the past is counterproductive, i.e., "I had to ask for a raise last year too."
HOW YOU SAY IT
* Be steady. If you voice is too soft, whiny, shaky, sarcastic or threatening, you will not come across well.
* Use "I feel" rather than "You are" in your statements. I feel angry when you do not call to say you are going to be late." NOT " You are such a thoughtless jerk!"
WHERE AND WHEN TO SAY IT
It is best to be assertive most of the time. And some times and places are not appropriate.
The Classic, It is best to confront someone in private rather than in front of people.
It is common courtesy to discuss sensitive issues in private.
KEEPING THE FOLLOWING 4 POINTS IN MIND WILL ASSIST YOU TO INCREASE YOU ASSERTIVENESS
1. Use confident body language
-- Look the person straight in the eye, do not look down or away
-- Keep your body straight, do not slouch.
-- Keep your hands at your sides or in your lap. Do not tap on the table, fiddle with your hair or jewelry, fold your hands across your chest, or point your finger at the other person.
2. Be a good listener
-- Give your full attention to the person who is speaking.
-- Show your interest by responding. Do not simply nod you head in agreement.
-- Briefly summarize in your own words what the person said. It helps eliminate misunderstanding.
3. Respect yourself
-- Realize that you are worthy and have something to offer. Your ideas are important and others can benefit from them.
Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses.
Recognize those things you do well. Do not discount them because they are easy for you.
Take gradual steps toward overcoming your weaknesses. Reward yourself as you improve.
4. Respect Others
+ Everybody has the right to express feelings and opinions.
+ Realize the difference between assertion and aggression. Keep each clear. There is no need to threaten, punish or false influence other people. If you treat them with respect, they will treat you with respect.
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE STRONGER, HEALTHIER AND MORE ENJOYABLE WHEN THEY ARE BASED ON MUTUAL RESPECT.
WHAT YOU SAY
* Be Specific, not general. "I have taken on more responsibilities - purchasing and supervising - and I think I should be compensated accordingly". NOT "You should give me a raise"
* Stay calm, becoming emotional or bringing up the past is counterproductive, i.e., "I had to ask for a raise last year too."
HOW YOU SAY IT
* Be steady. If you voice is too soft, whiny, shaky, sarcastic or threatening, you will not come across well.
* Use "I feel" rather than "You are" in your statements. I feel angry when you do not call to say you are going to be late." NOT " You are such a thoughtless jerk!"
WHERE AND WHEN TO SAY IT
It is best to be assertive most of the time. And some times and places are not appropriate.
The Classic, It is best to confront someone in private rather than in front of people.
It is common courtesy to discuss sensitive issues in private.
KEEPING THE FOLLOWING 4 POINTS IN MIND WILL ASSIST YOU TO INCREASE YOU ASSERTIVENESS
1. Use confident body language
-- Look the person straight in the eye, do not look down or away
-- Keep your body straight, do not slouch.
-- Keep your hands at your sides or in your lap. Do not tap on the table, fiddle with your hair or jewelry, fold your hands across your chest, or point your finger at the other person.
2. Be a good listener
-- Give your full attention to the person who is speaking.
-- Show your interest by responding. Do not simply nod you head in agreement.
-- Briefly summarize in your own words what the person said. It helps eliminate misunderstanding.
3. Respect yourself
-- Realize that you are worthy and have something to offer. Your ideas are important and others can benefit from them.
Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses.
Recognize those things you do well. Do not discount them because they are easy for you.
Take gradual steps toward overcoming your weaknesses. Reward yourself as you improve.
4. Respect Others
+ Everybody has the right to express feelings and opinions.
+ Realize the difference between assertion and aggression. Keep each clear. There is no need to threaten, punish or false influence other people. If you treat them with respect, they will treat you with respect.
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE STRONGER, HEALTHIER AND MORE ENJOYABLE WHEN THEY ARE BASED ON MUTUAL RESPECT.
Saturday, August 7, 2010
Understanding Assertiveness
To understand assertiveness let's start with common causes for nonassertiveness:
FEAR: of displeasing or hurting others or of being rejected or of making mistakes. Nonassertive people are often oversensitive to other people's feelings. They are afraid that disagreement will be misinterpreted as dislike for the other person.
FALSE BELIEFS: that they are unworthy or that they do not have any rights. These people think that if they assert their rights they are being self-centered, or that others' opinion are more valid.
LACK OF SKILLS: Some people never learned how to be assertive or were discouraged from being assertive as children.
Let's continue with some common causes of aggression:
INSECURITY: those feelings of powerlessness. Aggressive people often feel threatened and react strongly thinking they must protect themselves.
RELUCTANCE: to give up the perceived benefits of aggression. Some aggressive behavior make work in the short run because it intimidates other people. In the long run, however, the aggression gains only resentment ... not respect ... from others.
INEXPERIENCE: in expressing needs and feelings in any other way. Aggression can become second nature in some people.
AND PEOPLE can and do CHANGE the way they act ... CHANGING YOUR BEHAVIOR is really up to you! Nonassertive or aggressive actions often are the easiest and result when you put too much pressure on yourself, blowing things out of proportion. Learn to think calmly and rationally.
DEVELOP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE that says: It's OK to make mistakes. No one's perfect. I can say "NO" when I need to. I would like to be good at this and if I am not that is OK. I would like it if he went out with me and if he doesn't , that is OK. Asking questions does not make me look stupid and it is the best way to get the information I need. Just because I see it this way does not mean everybody else should agree. If I stand up for myself now and say what I really feel, it will be better in the long run.
FEAR: of displeasing or hurting others or of being rejected or of making mistakes. Nonassertive people are often oversensitive to other people's feelings. They are afraid that disagreement will be misinterpreted as dislike for the other person.
FALSE BELIEFS: that they are unworthy or that they do not have any rights. These people think that if they assert their rights they are being self-centered, or that others' opinion are more valid.
LACK OF SKILLS: Some people never learned how to be assertive or were discouraged from being assertive as children.
Let's continue with some common causes of aggression:
INSECURITY: those feelings of powerlessness. Aggressive people often feel threatened and react strongly thinking they must protect themselves.
RELUCTANCE: to give up the perceived benefits of aggression. Some aggressive behavior make work in the short run because it intimidates other people. In the long run, however, the aggression gains only resentment ... not respect ... from others.
INEXPERIENCE: in expressing needs and feelings in any other way. Aggression can become second nature in some people.
AND PEOPLE can and do CHANGE the way they act ... CHANGING YOUR BEHAVIOR is really up to you! Nonassertive or aggressive actions often are the easiest and result when you put too much pressure on yourself, blowing things out of proportion. Learn to think calmly and rationally.
DEVELOP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE that says: It's OK to make mistakes. No one's perfect. I can say "NO" when I need to. I would like to be good at this and if I am not that is OK. I would like it if he went out with me and if he doesn't , that is OK. Asking questions does not make me look stupid and it is the best way to get the information I need. Just because I see it this way does not mean everybody else should agree. If I stand up for myself now and say what I really feel, it will be better in the long run.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
How To Get Any Girl Steaming Hot, In MINUTES!
Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,
In the last issues, I laid out the basic operating theory of Speed Seduction: that women have internal, subjective "recipes" for love, lust, chemistry, attraction etc that they run on themselves quite outside of their conscious awareness.
I pointed out also a that this "process" produces the "feelings" that they base their actions, decisions and choices on when it comes to us poor horny men!.
Therefore, as smart guys, we are no longer going to be fooled by "dating" thinking or "dating" questions which entirely ignore this vital information about how women get "feelings" and what is really important for us as seducers to think about.
So instead of being what I call A.F.C's(Average Frustrated Chumps) we are going to learn to enter of the world of Speed Seduction® and learn to rapidly trigger these internal feeling recipes that produce these feeling "states" so we can quickly and easily enjoy power, choice and variety with women most guys just have to wish and long for.
The key then is to ask the question: What kind of "states" do I want this woman to experience with me? And how can I trigger these states using my language: the themes I talk about, the stories I tell, the descriptions of my experiences I give, and the questions I ask?
You see, one key secret to getting a woman to undergo all her internal feeling recipes or "states" is..
GET HER TO TALK ABOUT THEM!
Yes, my friends, old Guru Ross clears up another mystery here: by talking about "feelings" women tend to unconsciously trigger their internal feeling "recipes" or processes, which then of course..
Makes the Feelings More Vivid And Real!
For men, talking is mostly about conveying a message or information. It can be the same for women, but much the time, talking is their way of unconsciously triggering these "recipe" programs that run outside of their awareness, so they can..
Enjoy These Intense Feelings Again!
What I am saying here is that there is an actual ongoing brain process where-by the language centers of the brain, when triggered by speech, somehow stimulate or cause her internal feeling recipes or processes for love, lust, attraction (or any other strong feeling state, positive or negative) so that these processes get run again and she can have the "feeling" experience.
Hey..I just explained TWO mysteries: why women are so "into" their "feelings" and why they love to talk so much! Nobel Prize, anybody?
Ok. Let's now give you a peek at some of the actual Speed Seduction® tools you can use over coffee, on a first meeting, or wherever you find yourself talking to a woman.
The first tool I want to introduce you to is conversational set ups and themes.
You see, it usually isn't considered normal or socially acceptable to launch into immediate discussions of have women experience "attraction" "chemistry" "connection" or "lust".
As important as these experiences may be, you need some way of introducing them into conversation so you appear to be a normal, non-threatening guy.
So let me introduce you to some key part of the Speed Seduction framework. In the brief example below we'll talk about conversational set-ups, quotes, embedded commands, priming patterns and trigger questions. Used in combination, these can get a woman to unconsciously run virtually any feeling recipe/state so she has the resulting feelings that will lead to the behaviors you want.
Conversational Set-Ups
Conversational set ups allow you, after just a bit of small talk, to bring up those themes, subjects and topics that are far more likely to trigger these "states" we are after in a woman: deep rapport, comfort, connection, fascination, lust, desire, chemistry etc.
Again, they let you avoid the taboo against discussing such things right off the bat or discussing them directly with someone you just met. And you can't just walk up to a woman and command, "YOU WILL FEEL LUST FOR ME".
A good way to bring up these "heavier" topics is to use a pattern called quotes. Quotes involves simply quoting a conversation or topic that you were having with a friend, or something that you heard in a seminar or read in a magazine or saw on t.v.
Quotes allow you to naturally bring up almost any topic in a non-threatening way. Why? Because you aren't addressing something to her directly. Just quoting what you said or heard said. So it is less threatening.
Also, we tend to use this pattern in language naturally all the time ANYWAY, as in, "Did you hear what Ross said to Rachel on "Friends"? etc etc.etc. The unconscious mind tends to recognize patterns of communication more than it does actual content. So if it feels to the unconscious like a natural pattern of communication(quoting someone else) then the actual content becomes a lot more acceptable.
So let's say you want to trigger that subjective "state" in a woman that involves feeling like there is a wild adventure- a real opportunity she has to act on RIGHT now or she'll lose it forever.
Here's how to use quotes to bring it up, "You know, I was having the most interesting discussion the other night with an old friend I had not seen in years (Conversational set-up, quoting you and your friend)
The next thing we are going to do is use a bit of language I call a "weasel phrase". Weasel phrases just set up the person to make a deep search of their inner experience without making it seem like you are giving a direct command.
You can't directly say, for example, "I command you to go inside your memory and remember what it is like to feel something and then feel that way with me".
Instead, when you use the weasel phrase "have you ever" it is actually a command but it sounds like an innocent question.
For example, if I wrote, "Have you ever read something and it just seemed so fascinating, you realized you want to learn more/"
It's actually a command to go into your memory and recall it, but it is much easier to disguise the command into the form of a question about your experience because that way you don't resist it.
Make sense? Let's continue with our example
"By the way, HAVE YOU EVER just had a friend, and you could just FEEL SO COMFORTABLE…FEEL SO CLOSE embedded commands-giving her commands to feel comfortable and close by bringing up the situation and hiding the commands inside a description of the situation-sneaky, isn't it). You could just FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANTHING?(another command to feel free to talk).
Notice here we threw in a few suggestions and commands: FEEL SO COMFORTABLE. FEEL SO CLOSE. FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANYTHING.
We didn't suggest or command directly. We hid them inside that "have you ever" weasel phrase-something that looked a question about her experience but was actually a command to go inside and search her memory.
Sneaky, sneaky, I know. But it works. Onward.
"So we were talking about how sometimes life presents an opportunity..and you realize that if you don't take the opportunity to have an adventure, you'll lose it forever.(focusing in on the topic now)
Ok. Now we are going to use a "pattern" or priming example: this is a description of your experience or someone else's experience. It is designed to "prime the pump" and begin to activate the structures of her brain and mind that produce and run her "recipes" as we discussed in the last newsletter.
"Like for example he was telling me how he had a chance to take a police car for a joy-ride..and how he could just FEEL THIS EXCITEMENT(another command embedded in your story) and it was just like this other part of him came out and he had to take this ride."
Note that little bit about "take this ride"-said with the right tonality it becomes a piece of sexual metaphor. This a way to help guide the "recipe" process towards triggering something that will produce sexual feelings. Note that it is not guaranteed to do this, by itself. It is just priming the pump. A start.
Now we are going to use "have you ever again" again to get her to talking. Why? Because please remember it is by talking women revivify and trigger their most intense and important feeling processes/recipes.
When she talks about her processes and "recipes" and experiences, she can experience the intense feelings we want her to have, and then we can link them to us.
Using "Have You Ever" A Second Time
We've used "have you ever" once to begin to prime her memory. Now we use "have you ever" again but this time it will activate those feeling recipes and processes by getting her to talk about them.:
"So I think because you can learn a lot about a person from that, have you ever had an experience like that..where you just had to go with an adventure that was in your path…take a ride that just seemed so irresistible?"
What have we done here? In just a few minutes we:
1. introduced a topic, guided her memory and imagination for a very important and powerful feeling "recipe" and process
2. gotten her to talk about it to revivify it and make it real again, all in what sounds like an innocent and completely normal conversation.
Not bad at all. Considering you can learn to do this in a 20 minute conversation, and you begin now to see the potential for unleashing your love life!
One more point: when you watch a woman as she describes these experiences, you will see her begin to strongly have these feelings. Often her face will flush, her breathing will get heavier, and she'll get what I call DDBL or the.
Doggie Dinner Bowl Look!
This is an expression similar to the ones my Dalmations I had as a kid would get when I would show them the can of dog food through the window so they knew it was feeding time!
Now, once a woman is experiencing these strong feeling states in your presence, because she's running her internal "feeling recipe" it's really only a short matter of time before you are baking your brownies in her oven(to use a metaphor again!).
Remember: women act on strong feelings. As long as the feelings are there, as the end result of her running her internal "recipes" she will not in any way realize or know how they came about.
She will only feel them, feel happy they are there and feel glad that you will be feeling her in all those ways her nice guy "friends" will never get to.
Ok. I don't want to overwhelm you . The study of using conversational set ups, quotes, priming patterns, embedded commands, command questions and other tools-this study is the core of Speed Seduction. But do go out and try some of this stuff and you'll be shocked to see it works and works amazingly well.
Just remember a key rule: Speed Seducers never communicate just to be flapping your lips. Communicate with an outcome in mind so you can direct and trigger her feeling "recipes" in the direction you want, you the result you want is what you get!
Til next time,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. As I said in a previous issue, this way of speaking may seem strange to you as a guy, and that is a GOOD thing. It's not supposed to be the kind of thing we GUYS respond to. It IS what women love, what triggers their deeper level emotional centers, and what stimulates their fantasies and sexual desires.
You can get started getting women hot and bothered by going to this link right now:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
In the last issues, I laid out the basic operating theory of Speed Seduction: that women have internal, subjective "recipes" for love, lust, chemistry, attraction etc that they run on themselves quite outside of their conscious awareness.
I pointed out also a that this "process" produces the "feelings" that they base their actions, decisions and choices on when it comes to us poor horny men!.
Therefore, as smart guys, we are no longer going to be fooled by "dating" thinking or "dating" questions which entirely ignore this vital information about how women get "feelings" and what is really important for us as seducers to think about.
So instead of being what I call A.F.C's(Average Frustrated Chumps) we are going to learn to enter of the world of Speed Seduction® and learn to rapidly trigger these internal feeling recipes that produce these feeling "states" so we can quickly and easily enjoy power, choice and variety with women most guys just have to wish and long for.
The key then is to ask the question: What kind of "states" do I want this woman to experience with me? And how can I trigger these states using my language: the themes I talk about, the stories I tell, the descriptions of my experiences I give, and the questions I ask?
You see, one key secret to getting a woman to undergo all her internal feeling recipes or "states" is..
GET HER TO TALK ABOUT THEM!
Yes, my friends, old Guru Ross clears up another mystery here: by talking about "feelings" women tend to unconsciously trigger their internal feeling "recipes" or processes, which then of course..
Makes the Feelings More Vivid And Real!
For men, talking is mostly about conveying a message or information. It can be the same for women, but much the time, talking is their way of unconsciously triggering these "recipe" programs that run outside of their awareness, so they can..
Enjoy These Intense Feelings Again!
What I am saying here is that there is an actual ongoing brain process where-by the language centers of the brain, when triggered by speech, somehow stimulate or cause her internal feeling recipes or processes for love, lust, attraction (or any other strong feeling state, positive or negative) so that these processes get run again and she can have the "feeling" experience.
Hey..I just explained TWO mysteries: why women are so "into" their "feelings" and why they love to talk so much! Nobel Prize, anybody?
Ok. Let's now give you a peek at some of the actual Speed Seduction® tools you can use over coffee, on a first meeting, or wherever you find yourself talking to a woman.
The first tool I want to introduce you to is conversational set ups and themes.
You see, it usually isn't considered normal or socially acceptable to launch into immediate discussions of have women experience "attraction" "chemistry" "connection" or "lust".
As important as these experiences may be, you need some way of introducing them into conversation so you appear to be a normal, non-threatening guy.
So let me introduce you to some key part of the Speed Seduction framework. In the brief example below we'll talk about conversational set-ups, quotes, embedded commands, priming patterns and trigger questions. Used in combination, these can get a woman to unconsciously run virtually any feeling recipe/state so she has the resulting feelings that will lead to the behaviors you want.
Conversational Set-Ups
Conversational set ups allow you, after just a bit of small talk, to bring up those themes, subjects and topics that are far more likely to trigger these "states" we are after in a woman: deep rapport, comfort, connection, fascination, lust, desire, chemistry etc.
Again, they let you avoid the taboo against discussing such things right off the bat or discussing them directly with someone you just met. And you can't just walk up to a woman and command, "YOU WILL FEEL LUST FOR ME".
A good way to bring up these "heavier" topics is to use a pattern called quotes. Quotes involves simply quoting a conversation or topic that you were having with a friend, or something that you heard in a seminar or read in a magazine or saw on t.v.
Quotes allow you to naturally bring up almost any topic in a non-threatening way. Why? Because you aren't addressing something to her directly. Just quoting what you said or heard said. So it is less threatening.
Also, we tend to use this pattern in language naturally all the time ANYWAY, as in, "Did you hear what Ross said to Rachel on "Friends"? etc etc.etc. The unconscious mind tends to recognize patterns of communication more than it does actual content. So if it feels to the unconscious like a natural pattern of communication(quoting someone else) then the actual content becomes a lot more acceptable.
So let's say you want to trigger that subjective "state" in a woman that involves feeling like there is a wild adventure- a real opportunity she has to act on RIGHT now or she'll lose it forever.
Here's how to use quotes to bring it up, "You know, I was having the most interesting discussion the other night with an old friend I had not seen in years (Conversational set-up, quoting you and your friend)
The next thing we are going to do is use a bit of language I call a "weasel phrase". Weasel phrases just set up the person to make a deep search of their inner experience without making it seem like you are giving a direct command.
You can't directly say, for example, "I command you to go inside your memory and remember what it is like to feel something and then feel that way with me".
Instead, when you use the weasel phrase "have you ever" it is actually a command but it sounds like an innocent question.
For example, if I wrote, "Have you ever read something and it just seemed so fascinating, you realized you want to learn more/"
It's actually a command to go into your memory and recall it, but it is much easier to disguise the command into the form of a question about your experience because that way you don't resist it.
Make sense? Let's continue with our example
"By the way, HAVE YOU EVER just had a friend, and you could just FEEL SO COMFORTABLE…FEEL SO CLOSE embedded commands-giving her commands to feel comfortable and close by bringing up the situation and hiding the commands inside a description of the situation-sneaky, isn't it). You could just FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANTHING?(another command to feel free to talk).
Notice here we threw in a few suggestions and commands: FEEL SO COMFORTABLE. FEEL SO CLOSE. FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANYTHING.
We didn't suggest or command directly. We hid them inside that "have you ever" weasel phrase-something that looked a question about her experience but was actually a command to go inside and search her memory.
Sneaky, sneaky, I know. But it works. Onward.
"So we were talking about how sometimes life presents an opportunity..and you realize that if you don't take the opportunity to have an adventure, you'll lose it forever.(focusing in on the topic now)
Ok. Now we are going to use a "pattern" or priming example: this is a description of your experience or someone else's experience. It is designed to "prime the pump" and begin to activate the structures of her brain and mind that produce and run her "recipes" as we discussed in the last newsletter.
"Like for example he was telling me how he had a chance to take a police car for a joy-ride..and how he could just FEEL THIS EXCITEMENT(another command embedded in your story) and it was just like this other part of him came out and he had to take this ride."
Note that little bit about "take this ride"-said with the right tonality it becomes a piece of sexual metaphor. This a way to help guide the "recipe" process towards triggering something that will produce sexual feelings. Note that it is not guaranteed to do this, by itself. It is just priming the pump. A start.
Now we are going to use "have you ever again" again to get her to talking. Why? Because please remember it is by talking women revivify and trigger their most intense and important feeling processes/recipes.
When she talks about her processes and "recipes" and experiences, she can experience the intense feelings we want her to have, and then we can link them to us.
Using "Have You Ever" A Second Time
We've used "have you ever" once to begin to prime her memory. Now we use "have you ever" again but this time it will activate those feeling recipes and processes by getting her to talk about them.:
"So I think because you can learn a lot about a person from that, have you ever had an experience like that..where you just had to go with an adventure that was in your path…take a ride that just seemed so irresistible?"
What have we done here? In just a few minutes we:
1. introduced a topic, guided her memory and imagination for a very important and powerful feeling "recipe" and process
2. gotten her to talk about it to revivify it and make it real again, all in what sounds like an innocent and completely normal conversation.
Not bad at all. Considering you can learn to do this in a 20 minute conversation, and you begin now to see the potential for unleashing your love life!
One more point: when you watch a woman as she describes these experiences, you will see her begin to strongly have these feelings. Often her face will flush, her breathing will get heavier, and she'll get what I call DDBL or the.
Doggie Dinner Bowl Look!
This is an expression similar to the ones my Dalmations I had as a kid would get when I would show them the can of dog food through the window so they knew it was feeding time!
Now, once a woman is experiencing these strong feeling states in your presence, because she's running her internal "feeling recipe" it's really only a short matter of time before you are baking your brownies in her oven(to use a metaphor again!).
Remember: women act on strong feelings. As long as the feelings are there, as the end result of her running her internal "recipes" she will not in any way realize or know how they came about.
She will only feel them, feel happy they are there and feel glad that you will be feeling her in all those ways her nice guy "friends" will never get to.
Ok. I don't want to overwhelm you . The study of using conversational set ups, quotes, priming patterns, embedded commands, command questions and other tools-this study is the core of Speed Seduction. But do go out and try some of this stuff and you'll be shocked to see it works and works amazingly well.
Just remember a key rule: Speed Seducers never communicate just to be flapping your lips. Communicate with an outcome in mind so you can direct and trigger her feeling "recipes" in the direction you want, you the result you want is what you get!
Til next time,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. As I said in a previous issue, this way of speaking may seem strange to you as a guy, and that is a GOOD thing. It's not supposed to be the kind of thing we GUYS respond to. It IS what women love, what triggers their deeper level emotional centers, and what stimulates their fantasies and sexual desires.
You can get started getting women hot and bothered by going to this link right now:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
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