Confessions Of A Seduction Guru

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,


Just a short while ago I had an unusually negative experience which requires me to confess.

Actually, I've been building to this negative experience for days, without consciously realizing.

You see, as I have preached time and again, you have to daily practice the attitudes, beliefs, energy and yes (I know this sounds "New Age") patterns of breathing that give you the confidence and charisma to attract women, anytime, anywhere, often without evening opening your mouth first!

But, the past week, I've been so-fired up, attending to some great new ideas for my business that I have not been practicing what I preach.

Yes, your good Old Guru of Poon deserves a well placed kick in his ass for being a hypocrite and NOT practicing.

Well, today I got that kick.

You see, when I got up today, I just wasn't feeling "right". I was tired, cranky, not in touch with my usual energy, and as a result, when I was "sarging" this morning, having my daily Starbucks coffee

Every Sarge Fell Flat!

Yes, I confess. Even your Guru is a human and has to practice, all the time, to stay in the best state of mind.

And your state of mind; your energy, beliefs and the attitude your project are very important.

They are like the conductive medium; the wire if you will-across which you send the electricity of your spoken words.

So don't be a goof like me. Practice what I teach you, daily. Do the breathing, the meditation, and the visualizations daily(and take care of your body with some good exercise too) and you will see daily results that will astonish you.

And if you want to find out more about how to radiate a confidence, charisma and energy that has women approaching you, just go right here:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp


You'll learn a quick, ten minute, daily breathing/energy/visualizing ritual that will make you a true winner with women. And don't be a lazy, good-for-nuthin' ass like your Guru sometimes is.

GET OUT THERE AND DO IT!

Piece and peace,

RJ

P.S. If you already radiate with confidence and just want some amazing ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere, get my most current popular product that the students are raving about-my Gold Walk Up DVD.

Just go here:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp


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Going For The First Kiss

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Here is an important question I got the other day via email. (By the way, feel free to write me with your questions and testimonials!)

"Hi Guys

It's midnight on a rainy Monday in old London Town. I've just got back in from an evening out with a very attractive young lady and I'm a bit frustrated.

I met Cath last year on holiday. When we first met we quite fancied each other, but by the end of the holiday, for various reasons, we weren't seeing eye to eye. Relationship at this point was purely platonic.

We met up again and I ran several patterns from the Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp

At several points when she was in trance I leaned in and she responded very favorably by smiling and leaning in to me.

At the end of the evening I walked her back to her car, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and we agreed to meet again.

All well and good? If that's the case why do I feel like I managed to capture her imagination but didn't lead it very well?

It seems to be a bit of a theme with me at the moment. I go out, meet quite a few women, get into great conversations with them. Steer these towards SS themes but don't seem to be able lead them to places which let them feel interested or comfortable enough to want to go any further.

I sort of feel like I'm sooooo close. But not quite there? I'm managing to put myself in a scoring position, but can't quite create the opportunity to put the ball in the back of the net.

Suggestions, support and encouragement most welcome.

TR London, England"


Ok, TR. Good going, so far. You are using patterns and getting some strong, favorable responses.

Here is where you screwed it up:

YOU WAITED UNTIL THE END OF THE EVENING TO GO FOR THE KISS!

What is this stuff about waiting to walk her back to her car?

You have to learn to strike while the iron is hot.

If you see her leaning into you, that's a huge NON-VERBAL SIGNAL that is screaming out: KISS ME, STUPID!

The more important issue is, you seem to be putting Speed Seduction® through a dating framework.

What I mean by that is, even though you are using the patterns and getting great responses, you are still thinking in terms of traditional dating when it comes to making your move.

You are still thinking you have to wait til the end of the evening, etc etc.

Get that traditional "dating" programming out of your head.

When you capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions, they will be ready for action, far more quickly than you would ever get through traditional dating.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Want to enjoy fantastic success with amazing women, without resorting to traditional dating, stupid "dating tips", trite "dating advice", canned "pick up lines" and the rest of that nonsense?

Get women hot for you, fast and easy, and leave traditional dating behind for good. Just go here:

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Meet women, anytime, anywhere and never worry about what to say. Check out the amazing Gold Walk Up DVD and learn the 4 approach positions that will have you easily approaching women any time and never have to think about what comes out of your mouth:

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Ouch, That Hurt

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day, I was doing some fabulous Combat Conditioning exercises, as taught by the incredible Matt Furey.

Being a fairly sedentary (a big word that means lazy ass) person, having a quick, fun work-out that I can do that actually makes me functionally fit, really feels good.

But today, contrary to Matt's advice, I over did it a bit, and as a result, I'm pretty sore.

Now, what in the world does this have to do with pulling hot women?

Simply this; in the beginning, when starting something new, pace yourself.

Look, as a human, you can learn to do pretty much anything, IF you do things gradually.

Too many guys, when they order their Speed Seduction Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp) TRY to jump in and do the hardest stuff first.

For example, even if they haven't had a woman in a decade or even talked to one in the same length of time, they want to go right out, approach the hottest woman in town, and try to get her in the sack in a matter of minutes.

Now, far be it from me to discourage ambition, and using Speed Seduction® you can and will get these kind of results.

But my stronger suggestion is: start out slow. Take one or two basic concepts from the course, and apply them every day. Even if you only improve 1 percent a day, by the end of a couple of months, you'll be bouncing from girl to girl like a rabbit on a double frappucinno mocha latte, extra whip!

Anyway, if you want the power, confidence and charm to pick the women you choose, instead of relying on canned pick-up lines, trite dating tips and stupid dating advice, why don't you learn to throw dating away and get the women you want jumping on you before you even go out? Thousands of guys around the world are doing so right now, and the first step is going right here:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp.

Piece and peace,

RJ


P.S. If you are already smoking the tuna like crazy with your Home Study Course, it's time to step up to the advanced leagues and get my most powerful of all seduction courses.

Just go here:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp

and check out my Secrets of Hyper-Response video/DVD series.


P.P.S. I'm not kidding. This one is NOT for beginners and you will not be allowed to order it unless you already own a Home Study Course.

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp


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Getting Off Auto-Pilot And Becoming Super-Free And Aware!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As you know, the incredible, life-changing Speed Life seminar comes up in October/November in a very sunny place. (Yes, it really is as beautiful as all the pictures and yes, the pretty girls really DO love foreigners!)

Anyway, since these seminars promise to be almost overwhelming in the amount of personal improvement and personal influence methods and secrets, I wanted to give you the jump-start by giving you some drills you can get started on RIGHT NOW!

These aren't required.

But they will help you hit the ground running when you get here.

BTW, if you haven't booked a room and want some advice on that, call Yates: 1-903-482-1034)

Anyway, as I have said over and over, one of the major keys to living the life of your dreams is...

.......Recognizing and Getting Off Of Auto-Pilot!

Remember, most people are walking around IN TRANCE. And even more importantly, the trances they walk around in...trances of fear..of limitation...of doubt of lack....

..............Really Do Not Serve Them!

Actually, these trances DO serve someone. They serve the "power structure" that profits and feeds off of a society of weak, programmed, obedient and fearful robots, who will look to the "authorities" on how to live an "ok" life.

Getting Off Of Autopilot..Now..Today!

One of the big pieces of getting off of autopilot and having real choice, is becoming aware of your fixed patterns of perception, response, action, etc.

To develop this "meta" awareness is a powerful tool to peel away old, trapped ways of thinking, acting and responding and believing. It makes it MUCH easier to move up ANY learning curve for any skill set.

You see, technical skill IS important. But many people offer fairly good models for technical skill(how to sell, how to seduce, how to get fit, etc) in different areas of life, yet few people get real changes or the huge leaps they want from following this advice.

Sometimes, the advice is lacking(as is the case with my rip-off, cheap-jack, bullshit imitators and "competitors")

But just as often, even with good "advice" and good model for new technical skills, the person trying to follow this advice has a bigger problem: they want to really change an area of life that has been deeply emotionally challenging, evoking lots of fear, self-doubt, personal limits etc.

What can often happen is that the new advice, new skills, new ways of thinking, feeling, acting and believing are filtered THROUGH the old emotions, experiences, beliefs, etc


This means that people seldom consistently will act out the new skills from the right frame of mind. They will be fighting themselves, their old habits, tendencies, etc.

A metaphor I use is, if I give you a pair of glasses dipped in dog shit, EVERYTHING WILL LOOK BROWN. That is why methods that assist in building clear, unfettered awareness can help us keep old responses, beliefs, behaviors, choices at bay and "in the freezer" LONG enough for new way to take hold, and long enough for us to move up new learning curves because we can see the new skills, beliefs, responses THROUGH CLEAR EYES

This is doubly necessary when the new ways are very different from the old ways and require major shifts. Remember, the further something stands from how you are used to acting, thinking, feeling and believing, the greater the chance for HUGE leaps. Also, the greater the chance for old ways to leap back up, unless you have a practice and discipline to deal with them.

I'll say that again: practice and discipline. Onward... Anything you do to bring your habitual patterns into your awareness(without anger, fear or reaction) is useful. This is why I am challenging you to go from one extreme to another and to pay attention to flows of feeling that trigger all of it; the awareness of feeling flow is key to knowing when you are slipping into old patterns of behavior and is also key to designing in NEW ones!

How To Use Breath And Energy To Immediately Set You Free!

Does this make sense? Now, here is the next exercise to do: As you know, I talk alot about a spot on the body located about 2-3 inches below the navel, between the navel and the public bone. If you've studied any martial arts, occult or "esoteric" disciplines, this spot is called different names: the kanda, the t'an t'ien, the hara, etc. Without getting into intricate explanations, you just need to view it as a major power center in the body and a major awareness center as well. So....stand upright. Feet planted about 2 feet apart. Take a deep inhale, and as you do, imagine the breath is moving in a soft line of energy feeling down the front of your body and swirling in the t'an t'ien. It doesn't matter if it is clockwise or counter-clockwise. Find out which works best for you.

Exhale by pulling your belly toward your spine and as you do, send strong line of energy from the small of your back up the center of your spine, out through the top of your head.

(By the way, you can go to the website and see a free video that will show you exactly how to do this...

http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp

Click that link. Scroll down the page to the second to the last video. You will see me demonstrating this with myself and teaching it to a student.

And if you want to learn more about doing this, I highly recommend my Fear Into Charisma video/DVD. Just click here to find out more:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp)

Onward

Do this breath about ten times. Now..as you go through your day, whenever you talk to people, focus on that inhale going to the hara, and put your focus and awareness there as you feel the energy swirl. You don't need to work about the exhale, except when you are alone, doing the ten breaths.

Out in the world, just focus on your awareness and breath in the hara. Notice how it changes your awareness and perception of people. Don't change anything else in your behavior. Just notice what you notice:

What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in yourself? What patterns of response/behavior can you notice in yourself, BEFORE they actually get manifested in your behavior...can you catch some "auto-pilots" that are now just considerations that you can actually put aside? Don't try to MAKE this happen..just notice if it does?

What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in other people? What specifically do you notice about how they respond to authority/power and how they exert authority/power with others? Can you notice which of their behaviors are "auto-pilot" and which appear more freely chosen?

Anyway, I look forward to seeing you at Speed Life, and I can't wait to also introduce you to the "Super-Team" of other amazing trainers.

Peace and Piece,
RJ

P.S. In the event that you have NOT yet signed up for Speed Life... jeez...I don't know when or even IF I'll ever assemble this great a team of super-trainers again. You'd better call Yates NOW for more information: 1-580-366-5820. Or email him at yatescanipe@yahoo.com


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The *FORCE* Is With You ... To Get Hot Women

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I have to make a silly confession: I am going to stood in
line for hours to see the latest "Star Wars" movie.

Now, I realize that being a "geek" at heart, those who know
me personally wouldn't be at all surprised.

But you, my dear students, should be aware, that one reason
I love Star Wars is…

I Really Do Believe In "The Force".

No, not necessarily something as radical as Master Yoda
levitating a space ship.

But I DO believe in "The Force" of breath, intent,
awareness, belief and skill-the skill of capturing and leading
the imagination and emotions-to help you have all the success
with women you could ever want.

Why do I believe this?

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Not just because I've seen it in my own life, over and over.

But more importantly, because of what you, my students, tell
me and have told me ever day, for the past dozen years about the
amazing transformation the Speed Seduction® "Force" has allowed
you to enjoy in your lives.

From guys who have never had a girlfriend their entire adult
lives, turning it around and having multiple women. Or guys who have had to settle for what they could get, now enjoying who they really want. To guys lifting years of depression and fear in weeks or even days and going back to enjoying life.

My friend, if you really want to learn to be a true "Jedi"
in the world of women, and having mastery of life as well, keeping working on those important things-

Learning to control and design your beliefs, attitude,
awareness, energy and skills.


The Power Of Asking The Right Questions

Finally, I want to speak about the most "Jedi" of "Jedi"
ideas. Something Yoda would surely agree with, preach and teach.

It's about the qualities you bring to your learning.

That is asking yourself a radical question, "What is the quality I want to bring to this challenge of mastering seduction?

What is the quality of energy,attitude, feeling and vibe I want to bring with me as I move towards mastery of these skills?"

You see, part of being a true seduction "Jedi" is knowing
how to ask the right questions.

And I know, many of you might ask, "What do I really want to
be able to do with Speed Seduction®? How can I make Speed
Seduction® most quickly and easily work for me?"

Good questions.

But the best question is: what quality do I want to bring to
my efforts as I move more and more every day toward mastery?

Do you want to make it about desperately and fearfully
trying to master new skills and bring your old anxiety and
fears with you?

"That, my friend, to the Dark Side, leads".

My friend, the good side of the Force is all about bring the
right qualities along with you as you move up the ladder of success with women, and about the daily practices that support those qualities.

Will you treat yourself with compassion, patience, and have
the ability to be kind to yourself when you trip over your "light saber" the first few times you try this stuff?

When you practice with women, will you do it from a place
of being "afraid of getting caught?" Or hoping she will like you?

Or can you do it from a place of believing, "no matter what
happens with this woman, I'll have fun and learn what I need to
succeed, if not now then surely sooner or later. I can always
have fun and learn!"

Can you find a place of compassion and clarity in your
mind, where you can daily give yourself credit for what you did
right, calmly correct mistakes, and mentally rehearse doing it
right?

Can you daily bring consistency, patience, and vision to
where you want to go even when things are at first not going
right?

The experience of thousands of students says, you can.

And that you can have pleasure, enjoyment, power and fun with women beyond your wildest dreams..AND stay on the "Good" Side of the Force!

To which I say, "right on".

Peace and piece,

RJ


P.S. Here is a beautiful testimonial from a student who has
truly become a "Jedi" of Speed Seduction®. What does he know that you yet don't, but could rapidly learn as he did from my Magick/PI course? Get yours here, right now:

http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj170.asp

Here is his un-edited letter, with his full real name, state
and city:

Hi Ross,

I wrote you a couple of months ago about my experiences with
your Core responsive videos. Now I'm working with your Magick
Influence set and am very impressed. I've worked with various forms of ritual work in the past ( from pagan to chaos ) but couldn't get them off the ground. The energy exercises really do make the difference. People, and opportunities are coming at me very quickly these days. I'm making more money, and women are calling me and seeking to spend time with me. Energy really makes the difference.

I've been with you since 93 and I'm a fan of the old SS.
That's for certain. However these last 2 sets, (magick and core
responsiveness) are at what I believe will be the beginning of a
new model not only for seduction, but for real and lasting change for anyone with an open mind and the good sense to use it.

As I said in my last email to you, the old SS got me laid.
It got me over many of my fears, illusions and resentment toward
women. This in and of itself was a magickal act lol !!!!But there was always a sense of labor involved in doing the old SS, if I'm going to be honest. And I had to evaluate whether a female was worth the effort of doing SS.

However with the new SS I really enjoy women now. In fact I
love a number of them these days. Women are now easy to be around. Their energy doesn't scare me or piss me off as it did in the past. I really get that I'm not a beggar seeking sexual favors, buy a giver of incredible gifts. One being the gift of my energy and two being the ability to open her emotions to a higher dimension of self understanding and intimacy. As result I'm getting a lot of female attention. I'm getting priority and loyalty from women as well as flirtation. Before the old SS, back in the old shitty days, I was either used or ignored by women. What a fucking difference!!!

I've wondered for awhile if SS could be taken to the place
in which average men using the system could get the same attention from women that rock stars, movie stars and professional athletes enjoy.In other words the groupie phenomenon. I think you're very close to opening us up to that. There are days lately when that's how it feels:)

Right now I'm deciding which women I want to take things
further with. I have options I didn't have before. Not too long
ago I would have f***ed the first woman who responded to my Sarge. My intuition is guiding me to an extent as well.

On the career level, I was given a lucrative opportunity
that has put me around wealthy people and their money. Oddly enough, I had no experience in this field, but the person who
hired me likes me now. Wild huh?


Anyway I bought a seat for your July magick seminar. So
I'll see you then.

Ross, Thank You for your Guts, Genius, and Friendship.


Art Simkins Riverside, Ca


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Special Super-Success Issue

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I am interrupting the normal flow of Speed Seduction(R) newsletters to bring you a very important message that I feel simply CANNOT wait.

You see, from time to time, I get incredible testimonials from students who are using the SS material to truly.....

...Change Their Lives And KICK BUTT WITH WOMEN!

Yesterday, I got the following email from Ryan D, and I feel I had to share it with you because his results are not only dramatic, but more importantly...

.....He Goes Into Which Specific Techniques Got What Specific Results With The Women He Really Wanted!

So, here, unedited, is the testimonial from Ryan. And if YOU want to get the results he is getting, you can always to to:

http://www.speedseduction.net

Here it is:

I have been using Ross's material since 1997, after a woman whom I thought I had loved totally rejected me. I was 20 at the time.

Sitting in a pool of rejection and self-doubt, I did what my parents had taught me to do in any type of failure: learn as much as you can about the subject and re-attack. I started to read anything and everything I could on meeting and dating women. Unfortunately, most of the material out there is written by touchy-feely types (mostly women or emasculated men) and fails to get down to a REAL way to bridge the communication gap between men and women. In one such article, I did read something that one of the authors said that modern men need to learn more about the art of "seduction". That word struck a chord somewhere in one of my subconscious harmonics, and I became very interested in the idea o f seduction. Up until then, everyone had been telling me "just be yourself", "it has to just happen", "it happens when you are not looking", and "just be patient". This idea of "seduction" implied to me that a process and techniques actually existed to get the things I wanted and at the same time give the things women wanted to them. It wasn't long before I simply typed www.seduction.com into my web-browser, and I was opened up to the world of Speed Seduction. When the student is ready, the master appears.

I bought the first book "How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed", and simply using techniques to elicit deeper structures in a person's thought processes during conversation, I met a wonderful young lady on the my flight home for Christmas Break. We lived in totally different parts of the world, but that didn't stop her from
driving four hours from New Jersey to see me when a trip brought me to Washington, D.C., and this is just from a plane conversation, and a few emails. I was hooked. I bought all the products; I listened to the home-study courses again and again. I became known as "the pick-up artist" in my circle of friends.

Which is not to say that learning how to meet and seduce women was not a difficult process, even with Ross's tools, it requires a commitment. You get through one layer of your difficult issues (like approaching women), and you find another challenge behind that one. If you find the persistence to get through them all, there are spectacular rewards waiting for you. In the SS-community, though, there are so many others (Ross included) who have been where you are at, and they have gotten through the labyrinth. The path is thoroughly known, and the maps for navigation do exist.

I eventually went to a seminar, and my success just sky-rocketed. One night during the seminar, just for fun, I decided to try and use the SS-tools to have the singer at a blues club invite me to come up on stage to sing. I started off by getting into a very good rapport with her, and she approached me after the first set was done. I eventually said to her, "if you were to ask me nicely, I might be convinced to come up and sing." She quickly convinced the rest of the band. While on stage, I focused all my energy on connecting with the room. I had folks telling me that it was the best version they had ever heard of the song I did (Mustang Sally), people were buying me beer, women were grabbing me and pulling me out on the dance floor. It was incredible.

I could go and brag about all the successes with women I have had, (which have been amazing), like the 20-year-old Japanese cutie that I met at Thanksgiving Dinner at my new boss's house that ended up blowing me in my boss's kitchen about 2 hours after I met her, or the bi-sexual actress I met on Internet that forced me into the back of my 4X4 in the parking lot at Starbucks after our first coffee date, or the amazing-legged Lithuanian girl who would shower me with both gifts and her affection, but the more important thing has been the cascading effects that this has had on all of my life. These tools of Ross and Yates teach you how to look at the world through eyes of possibility. You see how many people are stuck in life, just drifting, and while you may feel sorry for them, you have confidence that will never be you.

I have used this in so many other areas. I was trying to help a girl run faster so she could pass a fitness test for the Air Force, and I got her to create a state for things she really loves doing and then link that state to running. She took three minutes off her time. At one point I was a suspect in a criminal investigation (I didn't do it), and I used rapport strategies and eye-accessing
techniques to get a good rapport with the agents interviewing me. It was so successful that not only were they thoroughly convinced I didn't commit the crime, but the female agent wanted to set me up on a date with her supervisor.

The biggest mistake people make about judging Ross's students is to say that they are a bunch of sleaze balls that want to learn how to manipulate and psychologically subdue women. Based on the two seminars I have attended, I would say that nothing is farther from the truth. The people that I meet at the seminars are a big factor in why I keep going to them (and will continue to into the future). These people are the type of people seriously invested in becoming the best that they can become. Sex and seduction may bring them to this material, but there is so much more to it than that. Most of these men truly love women, but are baffled on how to communicate with them, so that both the men and women involved get the things they want and need (guess what women like sex too!).

Another thing I want to comment on about Ross is that he does have a great deal of heart, and that is so evident in the way he teaches in person. He doesn't set up a grand stage and liken himself to a god or religious figure (like some other people in this field might do). He sets things up on a very personal level. He holds his seminars in modest meeting halls in hotels. He has stools in front, not a stage. He'll go to lunch one-on-one with students, and is infinitely curious about their lives and who they are. He doesn't do this out of ego. He does it because he has a gift, and he loves to teach and give it to others.

There is so much more I can say about the profound effect Ross and Yates have had on my life (and I know they will continue to up into the future), but you really have to sit down and make the choice for yourself. Are you going to pre-disqualify something that you haven't even tried, or are you going to take a chance and try something different that could just change your life? How many of us do the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result? What if there was another way?

Ryan David,
Albuquerque, NM

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Why aren't YOU getting these results with women?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I just got TWO emails from students reporting their incredible results with women, using my system, and I HAD to share them with you.

As you read them, and imagine enjoying these results for yourself, you will notice that these guys give SPECIFIC descriptions of the techniques they used from my courses (and also give some juicy details about what the women did to and WITH them as a result!)

I want you to get excited as you read these two emails and wonder, WHEN WILL I BUY MY HOME STUDY COURSE SO I CAN ENJOY THESE RESULTS AS WELL?

Here are the emails:

Hi Ross and Everyone,

An amazing story for me. I met this girl who I went to elementary and middle school with through the Internet. We both used to live in Monterey and grew up around each other, but then I moved to another town and 8 years later we meet in another town.

Story- I instant message girl online, talked for a little while and met the following night. She came over here, I introduced cube game to her, then I talked about how I was learning to be a blissnotist, but I didn't go into detail about it until she came over. I think that made her really curious to meet me. Then I read some poetry and used the loop technique from a newsletter that was sent out before. The we started having wild passionate sex.

Well after we had sex she had mentioned Monterey and how she used to live there and I told her I used to live there, then I asked her what school she went to and the school she named was the same school I went to, then I asked her what her name was again and she said it and I told her I knew someone by that name that went to the same school I went to and that the girl I knew by that name had invited me to go to a special birthday celebration she had for her 15th birthday, where she had to dance at the thing.

Well, I told her I remember telling the girl I knew that I wouldn't go to her birthday celebration cause I was supposed to dance with her but that I didn't know how to dance Spanish music. So I never went.

She then paused and looked shock and then she asked me what was the girls last name that I knew and I told her. She suddenly looked even more shocked and then I was kinda shocked by her shockness. She asked me what my name was and well I use a different name when I meet woman from the Internet, but then I told her my first name and last name and she repeated it and said slowly, with a still shocked look on her face "Oh My God, you're so and so"

Then I pulled out pictures and yearbooks and there we were as youngsters in the yearbooks, me looking like a dork, I always thought she was hot being a cheerleader all throughout the whole time we went to school together. So the mood changed from passionate to being really aware.

We both lived on the same street in Monterey too. She lived just a few houses down from mine. I even described her house to her I, what her yard looked like. I went so far back that I took her to a time when I rode by on my bicycle stopped in front of her house as she was walking towards her front door and smiled at her as she stopped for a second and smiled back. I remembered and described what she was wearing that day. Now we're seeing each other. I've elicited her most important values and they just so happen to match mine which is really good.

Thanks, Ross!

BM



Could use a bit of assistance here... I'll try to be brief but that's not my strong-suit - LOL!

Background - I seem to be having a lot of success with neighbors. 1st night closes with both the woman who lives on top of me and the one in front (my complex is a target rich environment!). (Oh, and Ross - the second one happened days after I got back from LA. Thanks again for your time while I was there, and yes, I know she's also "geographically undesirable", but oh so desirable in every other way!)

The fling with the girl on top lasted a few weeks; we're still friends. She was fun and I enjoyed her, but not what I'm looking for long term. The one in front is another matter. She'd be an HB11 on my uncle's scale (a 9 with money!). She's the topic of this post.

I've known her casually for some time. She's very reclusive and hard to get to know; she's lived in front of me for over a year and a half... Does travel a lot with work, but most of the time you'd never know 'cuz when she is home she's rarely seen. Over the past few months I'd seen a bit more of her. She came out with her niece and nephew to play with my dog one day and we had a good conversation. A couple of weeks later, I was out detailing my car and she again came down to chat (very unusual for her!). The following weekend, she was out cleaning HER car and we started chatting, among other things she said that I'd inspired her (one good sign!). She also asked if I knew who lives above her, because they were up all night partying and having sex she couldn't get any sleep. I blushed, smiled sheepishly and said "That was probably actually us" (the other neighbor had been over the night before, and my bedroom is directly behind this one's...). She replied that if was me she wouldn't complain to the complex, but to get on the floor next time 'cuz my bed squeaks. I ended up trading a wax job (on the car, not her - LOL!) in exchange for her taking me to happy hour. A few days after that I left town for a while so didn't get a chance to take her up on the happy hour for a while.

Two days after I got back from my trip (I did some one-on-one counseling in LA with Marilyn Sargent and spent an afternoon with Ross) I ran into her out front. She invited me to come by later to watch a movie, and I countered with her coming to my place since I've got a nice home theater. She agreed and showed up a bit later. We decided just to talk & get to know each other a bit instead of the movie, which culminated in a late night visit to the Jacuzzi and spending the night at her place (hot sex, pussy breath and all!!!). Only two moments of last minute resistance; on the way to the pool I started holding her hand and she said "Wait a minute. We're holding hands! What about Jeannie (other neighbor)?" I replied, "Jeannie said she wants to see other people." which is true, by the way. That settled that. Then, just as we were getting into bed, she goes, "Hold on, we're neighbors! Doesn't that pose a problem for ... wait, I guess not. Nevermind..."
Brother BB

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Piece and Peace,

RJ

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How To *Lock In* Lasting Self-Confidence With Women!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Over the years, I've had a chance to look at what really
makes permanent, large, personal change possible. I've
watched thousands of guys use my methods to go very rapidly
from no confidence with women at all, to ease, power, grace
and fun with all the women they could possibly desire.

And one of the big things they had in common, in addition
to buying and using my products, is…

......Consistency!

They didn't just listen to my products once, or give it a
few tries.

No.

They immersed themselves in the material.

In fact, I've gotten many reports of guys going so far as
to have my, videos, cd's and tapes playing all the time in
every room of their house, apartment or hotel, no matter the
time of day, on multiple tape players, VHS's etc.

Other students (including some of my current top guys)
have said that they took long drives out of town, often
hundreds of miles each way, with the tapes or CD's playing the
entire trip.

Now, personally, I don't think I could stand listening to
my own voice that much!

But immersing yourself in the material, in fact, immersing
yourself when it comes to any truly new way of thinking and
feeling and acting, is probably…

.................A Damn Fine Idea!

Remember, one of my key rules for success and power with
women, which I've repeated over and over:

Use Your Language To Capture And Lead Her Imagination And
Emotions!

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Well, the same is true with changing yourself. You've got
to learn to capture and lead your own imagination and emotions
on a consistent basis to take you where you really want to
go! And then follow up with your external behavior, in the
real world, with women!

Anyway, yesterday I got an email from someone who brought
up this very issue. So let's here from this devoted
client/reader:


"Hey Ross, I know you probably get a million emails a day,
but I felt the need to take the time to thank you for the work
you've put in to Speed Seduction and the Unstoppable
Confidence series. I've only received SS 2 days ago, but just
by listening to your exercises on visualization and overcoming
fear and shyness, I can already tell it's having an effect on
the way I perceive myself.

If you happen to get through this and feel like replying,
I'm just wondering if it's normal to feel sort of...hollow, or
feel almost a blank emptiness after doing these exercises?
Seriously, after I listen and study for a while I feel like
I've completely erased a part of myself and it takes a little
getting used to but goes away after a while. Any idea what
I'm talking about, or am I just convincing myself that I
should feel different?

Again, thanks a million and I promise to study hard and
practice as often as I possibly can. :)

-Tim T. New Castle, PA "


Tim,

Thanks for the kind words. I personally love the
Unstoppable Confidence tapes. They are one of our all time
best sellers, and still, over a decade after I created them in
1994, they stand up as one of my finest products.

While it's great that only after 2 days you are already
noticing some good effects, bear in mind that it takes a while
for big changes to take hold and feel real.

That's not to say you aren't changing already. You are.
It just takes a while for new feelings, new thoughts and new
behaviors to "feel like the real you". Most studies show
that, in fact, the time period for new ways of thinking,
feeling and acting to "set" and feel "natural" is 21 days.

My suggestion is to keep on listening to the UC Tapes and
keep doing the exercises. It takes some consistent(but not
heroic or hard) effort to get change going. And for goodness
sakes, make sure you are a member of the Speed Seduction
on-line discussion group where you can get 24 hour support,
encouragement and ANSWERS to your questions! Yours for free
when you buy your Delux or Basic Home Study Course. Just click
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That's it for this issue. Keep practicing, keep capturing
imagination and emotion (your own and womens') and keep on
keeping on!

Peace and piece,

RJ

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How To Turn That *Friend* Into Your Devoted Lover!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It's truly amazing the questions I get.

I guess since this newsletter goes around the world and
reaches guys from every walk of life, from every kind of
culture, In every age range, you'd think guys have different
problems with women.

But when it comes to women, I've learned, we are pretty much
the same.

We all face pretty much the same challenges.

We are all pretty much trying to figure out the same
puzzles.

Now, here is a question I have seen many times. I'll let the
reader speak in his own voice:



"My name is XXX and I am 18 and from Ireland. I think your
material is absolutely fantastic and it has thought me so many
little things in which you should never, ever do with women! And
for that I thank you most grateful .I don't know where you
learned all of this but it really is great.

I have a problem though, and I know you are probably a very
busy man who won't reply to this but I am going to write it none
the less. I am completely falling for one of my friends. I feel
a very strong sexual attraction towards her, perhaps stronger
than I have ever felt before. I have never been closer to a
girl. We talk for hours, we are very physically close when we
are with each other but I think she may be afraid of abandoning
friendship. This is a serious gripe in my side. Is there
anything I could do effectively to bring out her true feelings
and desires without blatantly asking her? I suppose I want to
know how do you tell when a girl gets close to you whether she
is a friend or something more."

Ok, Mr. X.

The first thing to realize is, even if this girl is totally
attracted to you, to the point where she is having nightly
fantasies about you and her doing the nasty "grown-up" thang,
there is just about zero chance, especially given her young age,
that she is going to make the first physical move.

Sorry, but that just isn't the way it works.

I really wish it weren't the case that we guys almost always
have to go first.

But that is how it works.

So if you were hoping for her to make a move, or tell you
herself, it's unlikely to happen.

Now, even if she is afraid of "losing the friendship" that
doesn't mean you have to let her fears dictate where you or her
are going to go.

As I have said before, one of the key aspects of being a
leader with women, is to see where they are at, without having
to go there for yourself.

That is, you can understand her emotions, without having to
take them on for yourself.

Her fear is just that; H-E-R-S.

Stand your ground, and set the lead

Does that make sense?

Now, having set that, there are some things you can do to
accelerate this sexually and see just where you really stand.

First of all, let me tell you what I do NOT recommend.

I do NOT recommend suddenly grabbing and kissing her.

Why?

It's too rough a jump.

To go from zero contact to erotic contact(like kissing) is
just too abrupt.

So I would recommend you do some testing of her physical
boundaries first.

Now, it just so happens, women have 3 "erotic hot spots"
that seem like totally innocent places to touch.

These are:

1. The back of the neck 2. The small of the back 3. The
palm(and thumb)

(By the way, if you want to see free video clips of me
demonstrating the first two spots on a very hot female subject,
just go to:

http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp)

Anyway, here is what you can do:

When you are talking to her, get up to go to the bathroom,
but as you do, reach out, and with the palm of your hand, gently
rub the back of your neck(as I illustrate on the free video on
the website).

Notice her response. If she inhales sharply, moans with
pleasure, melts under your touch, then you are on your way!

Another thing you can do is to offer to read her palm.
Don't' ask me how to do palm reading; go to the library and get
a book on it.

Anyway, you can mostly make it up. Tell her her palm shows
she is lonely. Trace your finger on her palm and tell her that
her love line is very strong, that she has strong desires.
Explain also that the palm is a strong energy center, then take
your thumb and rub her palm with your thumb.

If you see her get the "doggy dinner bowl" look; the look
that says, "kiss me now" then lean in and kiss her! If she pulls
back, don't apologize! Just look at her and say, "hmmm…it just
seemed like you needed it"!

Another thing to do(also illustrated on the website) is to
put your palm briefly on the small of her back when you are
walking somewhere. Don't keep it there. Just use it to guide her
briefly and then take it away. The small of the back is a strong
sexual energy center.

The best advice is: learn from this. Don't be too attached
to this outcome with this girl. Remember this belief;

I either get what I want, or learn what I need to in order
to get what I want or even BETTER, next time.

If you see all of this through the filter of THAT belief,
you will do way better with this girl than if you HAVE to "win".

Good luck, and let us know how it turns out.

Piece and Peace,

RJ


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7 Tips To Supercharge Your Speed Seduction® Success!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...

Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!

As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.

Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.

Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!

Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!

Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!

Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!

Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.

Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:

Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?

Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?

Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?

Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.

Piece and Peace

Ross

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What To Say To Meet Women ANYWHERE!

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

Today I received the following question in email:

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I was wondering Ross, if you can suggest some icebreakers or opening lines to initiate conversations with? Like when you see an attractive girl and you want to approach her but you're not sure what to say. You want to say something but you're not sure what and then you think about it to long and its to late!

You know something comfortable that girls will smile at and want to keep the conversation going instead of us constantly talking.

I want her to say something after I initiate it so we can see if there is some chemistry there or not. And being able to get past "Hi"..You know what I mean? Are there some opening lines you can suggest I can use the next time I go out that are appealing? That way I will be armed with some ice breakers and will lead to getting to know someone hopefully.

Could you please let me know at your earliest convenience?
Thank you. Dimitrios
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Ok. For Dimitrios and all of you reading this:

This all depends on where you find yourself and what you see the girl doing.

This makes sense, doesn't it?

If you want a line that works in every circumstance, in every situation, no matter where you find yourself, and what the girl is doing, I guess you could go,

Hi..I noticed you here and realized if I didn't say something....I'd never get to find out what you're like..other than what I already know.

When she says, "What do you know?"

You say, "That you seem like you'd be cool and fun to talk to. I'm...YOUR NAME HERE".

You see, knowing what to SAY to a woman is utterly and totally dependent on WHAT YOU CAN OBSERVE ABOUT THAT WOMAN.

It's not so much a matter of what to say.

No, the real secret of "opening" women is, knowing what to observe, knowing what to notice, and even KNOWING WHAT TO GET CURIOUS ABOUT.

Does that make sense?

Also, the approach to opening her might differ a bit if she is at a coffee house, quietly studying, as opposed to in a loud restaurant or party, right?

Why?

Because the CONTEXT she is in and what you NOTICE about her is going to be different.

If she's studying, and you notice that she's having a hard time; thinking really hard, talking to herself out loud or just thinking "OUTLOUD" in her head, it would NOT make sense to walk up and ask her opinion about the great band that is playing or where she bought her cool bicycle.

So, I will say it again.

The most important thing, first and foremost, is NOT what you say, but the context she is in, and what you can observe about her and the setting she is in.

Now, many guys ask me about compliments. Should I give them? Is it a good way to first "open up" talking to a woman? If so, what should I compliment?

Ok. I'll repeat: it depends on the context, where she is, what she is doing, and what you NOTICE and can OBSERVE.

Look: whether it is opening her by using a compliment, or asking her a question about something, or making a comment about something she's doing or something going on in the environment, I will ask myself the same question, "What can I notice about this person that I can use to make a connection?"

Now, let's say I notice something about her that I DO find worth complimenting. My rules for complimenting are as follows:

1. NO sexual content in the compliments. That means I don't compliment on her great boobs, great legs, great butt, etc. No woman(no half-way SANE woman) wants a drooling lecher.

2. All compliments to be delivered with good eye contact in fact, ANY openers are delivered this way) with a smile on my face AND in my eyes( I sort of make them twinkle a bit) and delivered with a MATTER of fact voice tone.

This means I don't overdo it with my tone of voice. The compliment is delivered, matter of fact, with no concern on my part whether she will accept it, reject it or anything in between.

It is NOT about her accepting or rejecting what I say. It is ONLY about me wanting to say what I have to say, and any response she has is OK WITH ME.

Really, this is about the sub -text. This means, you see, that there is the surface message, the actual words I say. Those can be important.

But the sub-text is the unspoken or implied message I am delivering about me and how I walk through the world; that ***I*** take full responsibility for how I feel about myself, my situation, the events and circumstances in my life, and I don't need anyone to approve or validate my message.

Now, trust me. When you come from THAT place, and add in a touch of humor....

Almost Anything You Say Will Get A Good Response!

Notice something else. This is a great but different KIND of confidence. It's not the kind of confidence that say, loudly, "I KNOW I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I WANT".

It's more of a, "If I get what I want, that's fine and good, and if not, that's ok too. I'm having fun regardless".

Ok. Back to compliments then.

I prefer to compliment women on the following things:

1. How they carry themselves or how they move. I enjoy a woman who moves beautifully and/or who has great posture. I will tell them so, as follows, "I just wanted to tell....I think you have perfect.......posture. You just carry yourself beautifully."

Notice the ....... This indicates a pause in your speaking. I don't run everythingtogetherintoonesentencelikethis.

No. I take....my....time. I pause, right before I tell them what I am going to tell them, so they will get curious about what I am going to say, and therefore be more receptive.

The pauses in the music are as much a part of the music as the notes, to use a metaphor.

2. How they are dressed. I like to compliment on style. So I will say, "I just wanted to tell you...I admire women with class and style...so I had to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE."

Note that this is what I call an IMPLIED compliment. I didn't' directly tell her I think SHE has class and style. I said I admire women with class and style, so I had to say "hi". That IMPLIES that I think she has class and style.

Why is this important?

Well, by implying the compliment, she has to use her imagination to interpret what you meant.

Imagination is an ACTIVE process, and so she doesn't resist the message, as she herself has to take an active hand in creating it!

Implied compliments are very useful in slipping past any resistance or skepticism to your message!

This, of course, is part of the number #1 rule in Speed Seduction®: Use your imagination to capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions!

3. I will compliment on their "energy". I know this is a New Age, California kind of thing, but women are into "energy" or "vibes". It doesn't matter if you believe in it or not-although I hope one day you will.

The important thing is, MOST women believe in it.

So if I notice a woman has a calm, radiant, happy demeanor, I will say, ""I just wanted to tell you.....I think you have..a beautiful....energy about you, and it just made me have to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE".

Ok. Another major way to meet women is to say something funny; make an observation or comment that is humorous, based on something you can observe.

Now, again, I can't give you a "one line fits all" example, because again, it's based on what you are observing in the actual situation. So you will have to observe her, asking, "What can I notice that I can use to make a connection?".

Next, ask yourself, "How can I phrase that in a clever, funny way that gets attention and makes her laugh?"

This takes some practice. But you can get good at it.

Now, again, I hesitate to give word for word examples, because it depends on what you observe. But let me give you just a couple I have used.

One day, as I sat having coffee, this woman walked into the Coffee B*** and T** L***, a local coffee house chain. I noticed immediately that:

1. She had purple hair 2. She had purple fingernails 3. She had purple eye shadow 4. She had purple lipstick 5. She was wearing purple gym clothes 6. She had purple shoes (Yes, I wondered if her PANTIES were purple, but I didn't ask!)

Now, I could have just made a straight comment/observation, as in, "Wow. I see you like the color purple".

Instead, I chose to be funny. I said, "Hmmm..excuse me...but I'm getting a psychic message about you from the spirit world.

Yes...yes..it's a bit fuzzy..hold on..hold on! Yes, the spirits are telling me..YOU LIKE..THE COLOR....PURPLE.

Now, she busted out laughing and that started the conversation.

nother time, I was with a friend in a restaurant/coffee place and we noticed this very cute Asian girl studying her text book so hard, her ears were about to start smoking. She was obviously having a hard time understanding it, talking to herself out loud and then obviously talking to herself in her head.

We sat at the table near her and I said, "Excuse me..can I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker and my friend and I have something very important to discuss."

Now, at that point, she busted up laughing and joined in our conversation.

So again; I can provide examples with this kind of opener. And I can tell you how to come up with your own. But you are going to have to match your opener to what you actually see and observe about her-does that make sense?


Here Are Some Approaches I Do NOT Recommend-

1. Asking her the time, or for directions. It's trite, lame, and then where do you go from there? If you are terribly shy and can't even talk to women, ok, you can start here. But learn to do something else quickly.

2. Being insulting or in any way rude. I don't care what you might have heard. Insulting a woman is stupid. Any woman with choice is just going to move on. If she's kind, she won't insult you back. If she isn't, she just might give a verbal tongue lashing, and that's not the kind of tongue action you want!

3. Invading her space when I meet her. Once I make my initial opening, tell her my name, shake her hand; I then actually take a step back, away from her, to give her back her space.

Women tell me that, to them, it demonstrates respect. It also indicates that, while I am strong enough to come up and meet them, I am also concerned with their safety, and they like that combination. And finally, it indicates a challenge: just because she gave me a good initial response to my opener, doesn't mean she has me! It establishes a challenge, right away.

In any case, whatever approaches you use, bear in mind one more thing I teach my students: 90% of the time, the worst that can happen is NOTHING will happen.

The image of the cold, cruel, rejecting, vicious "bitch"
really exists pretty much only in the movies. Most women, if they aren't interested (and most actually do respond positively to a sincere, fun approach, even if they don't get romantically interested) just won't do anything.

They won't yell.

They won't shoot a dirty look.

They won't hit you or call the cops or the bouncer.

Most, if they just aren't interested, simply WON'T RESPOND.

So get this: the worst that can happen is NOTHING WILL
HAPPEN.

Repeat after me: THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN IS: NOTHING WILL HAPPEN.

I've approached thousands of women, literally. In all that
time, maybe 5 instances have I ever been yelled at or have women had something truly vicious to say. And in those cases, I just chalked it up to something that had NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.

Maybe they were having a terrible day. Maybe their boyfriends beat or abused them. Who knows?

I know if I approach someone in a fun, non-threatening, and sincere way, and they are STILL mean, THEY are the ones with the problem.

Again, this means it has to be ok with you if you don't
"win" all the time. Or better still; define winning as having fun, polishing your skill, and learning SOMETHING about the person you are going to meet. That's within the power and ability of EVERY person, and most of the time, you learn something quite pleasant.

Ok. Enough on this. Hope this helps. I've shot a video
series on this and am in the process of editing it. I WILL
ANNOUNCE WHEN IT IS READY, so please don't call the office and bug them about it, OK? They get cranky about that kind of thing and I'm all about...

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Three Strikes and you are Out

Guys send me situations or material and ask for my comments. Sometimes they appear to be created and want to know hypnotically what if this happened. Others appear to be from discussion groups and they want another opinion. Evidently a guy went out one day and tried approaching women (I say tried because he failed) on three separate occasions and failed.

The second one seemed most interesting to me. The pick up line from the seduction home study course goes some like this: Excuse me, have you every been told that you are a shining example of genetic perfection. Or Excuse me, I noticed you and I think you are a shining example of genetic perfection.

NOTE: The main rule here is to notice her response and act accordingly. If she respond positively, continue. If she responds negatively, STOP.

So this guy reports that he says: Excuse me, but has somebody ever told you that you are the perfect example of …. Physiological perfection?

Two Comments: “BUT” negates everything in front of it. So he is saying that he is totally non caring if he interrupts, intrudes or not. Second, somebody is different from anybody. Do you know somebody who fixes cars versus do you know anybody who fixes cars. Is he emphasis is on fixing cars or a person who fixes cars: Which? Just a side, Physiological is harder to say and is different than Genetic. One is natural and the other achieved.

She responded: Thanks, but no they haven’t. And then she just walked away.

RED FLAGS: Her “But” is saying NO THANKS. And then she just walked away. NEGATIVE RESPONSE, STOP.

He keeps going: I think that people like you should be let known every once in a while how special they are.

He has now moved to aggressive. When do you hear the phrase “people like you.” It is usually not a compliment. He has passed judgment and has passed the point of observation. Yes, he observed that she was different in his eyes. Now he is insisting that she see it too.

She responded: Thanks And then walked away.

Hold on, this guy still hasn’t gotten the message. He is not letting her response guide his next move.

He now says as he is now following her: What was it that I said that was so threatening to you to cause you to slowly walk away from me as I talk to you.

And then she took off at warp speed.

Of Course, he just became a predator and stalker. He is lucky that she did not go get the cops.

I think this guy has good intentions and is just excited with a new tool that he doesn’t understand. He got a new tuning fork and is using it as a pitch fork. Instead of listening to and feeling the vibrations, he is using it to throw crap against the wall and see if any sticks. I also think his underlying belief based on this and the other two strikes is one of physical power instead of finesse and not realizing the difference.

Dr YJC

Could you explain the body connection to the mind and the relation to feeling better and staying healthy?

Not Here. However, our “Feeling Better” product can be the corner stone guide to wellness and staying healthy. Staying fit and healthy by boosting the immune system is just one area of the product.

However, I will let you know this. The Brain and human body is the ultimate chemical factory and can manufacture any chemical in the world. It is up to you NOW.

Dr YJC?

Economic Justice

In Erickson Covert Hypnosis you are not looking for the traditional or Hollywood eyes closed slumped over asleep response from a person. You are just looking for a phrase or couple of words to get past the conscious mind and find a home in the subconscious. On of the effective ways to do this is ambiguity. You use a couple of words that are not used together in the normal language. You do not define these words. They mean something to you. They mean something different to every individual that hears them or maybe they don’t mean anything to the person hearing them as they are new together. This is exactly the case with the term “Economic Justice” as used by the head man in Washington. He know what it means. Everyone else hears Economic separately from Justice and does not know what it means. No one defines it. Is it Socialism by another word? You choose.

More recently, Torture is the new buzz word. At first is seems that Torture was used to get worthless information. When it was shown without a doubt that the information obtained by the interrogation methods was indeed very valuable, then the rhetoric changed. It is now proclaimed that the valuable information that was obtained could have been gotten by “OTHER METHODS.” Again “other methods” is not defined or even one example given or a even a source of these mysteriously powerful “other methods” given. Evidently no one else in the government has or had any knowledge of said “other methods.”

Start listening with your other mind and other ears for other frequencies. Start paying attention to all your senses. Something may feel wrong, not look right, sound funny, smell odd or just leave a bad taste in your mouth.

On the other hand, as you read our justice ramblings, notice the good feeling you get. The sense that it makes perfect sense, doesn’t it. It rings true. Smells deliciously inviting as you just know the right track when you are on it. Ready to join us.

Dr YJC

Erickson Covert Hypnosis

We have been teaching Erickson Covert Hypnosis and NLP for specific applications since 1990. These applications include seduction, sales, magick/psychic influence, huna and business management.

It has come to our attention that the need, demand, interest has been shown in other applications how does stress affect you life and what to do about it.

The underlying principles are the same. Keep reading the Blog.

Dr YJC

Isn’t Manipulation bad?

Manipulation is to move in a direction with deliberateness. It is neither good or bad. The result may be GOOD OR BAD because of the INTENT. If you have the best interest of the individual at heart, then the manipulation is good. The art of manipulation can be for emotional manipulation (cheerleading) which is simply mental manipulation. You can also learn to manipulate energy with the ancient and modern ninja and huna techniques. Now you can understand the difference between persuasion and manipulation. Manipulation can control limiting beliefs thus freeing the self or keeping the self stuck.

Dr YJC

You Don’t Know What You Look Like

I am not talking about looking at pictures, or watching yourself on videos or looking in the mirror while you are reciting your affirmations. I mean that you don’t know what you look like from the perspective of someone else. You don’t know what they see, sense, feel or think when they look at you and experience you. Is that important? You bet you butt it is. If you are interviewing, then the job depends on it. If you are approaching the opposite sex and expecting a warm reception, then it is paramount.

If we have established that it is important and that “You Don’t Know What You Look Like,” then it is also probably true that you don’t know how to find out how you look either.

It is simple. Ask people. Ask the people closest to you. Ask strangers. Ask early in conversations. There are several ways to ask. Ask them to give you three words that come to mind when they met you or three words that best describe you in their view. You can say, “You have known me all my life, in one sentence describe me and I don’t mean physically. Describe me as a person.”

Now you may be surprised at the answers you get. The person giving you the answers at a particular point in time is looking at you, sensing you through their own filters. For example, if they are very religious and sense the goodness in you, then that will be in their response. You will most likely get a lot of different answers and also a pattern will emerge.

Let me know your experiences and we will continue this interchange.

Dr YJC

Can you explain to me why people (I) have so much trouble with Communication?

As you probably guessed by now, I like definitions. The number one definition for communication is “an act of transmitting”. It implies ONE WAY and has no mention of content of what was transmitted. The number three definition is “a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs or behavior”. I like this one.

By focusing on two points you will greatly enhance the ways to communicate. Point one is information exchanged. Point two is the common system. In human communication and understanding human communication it requires a certain level of common language which includes environmental background. If a very religious person wants to clearly communicate their views with someone who does not have the same upbringing, then it is the responsibility of the speaker to learn and adapt to the audience to communicate with clarity.

If two people are engaged in interpersonal communication and want to be effective and they come from different economic backgrounds, then each must be aware and use that knowledge to be most effective in communication. They must also be aware of their non verbal and verbal communication. For Example, if a person is saying “yes” while shaking their head “no”. This non verbal communication should be noticed and determined whether it is a symbol or sign which is not congruent.

So to effectively communicate or communicate well, one should always consciously have a purpose and know the model of the world of the person or audience.

Also remember, when you are talking to a person, there are two people listening and one of them is you. Pay attention to your “self talk” and change it. All these together will allow you to communicate with confidence.

Advertising is a similar situation. To know if you are effectively communicating, you must have feedback, the other part of the information exchange. The feedback is sales or questions.

Am I communicating effectively with you? I can look at orders and questions coming back from you. If what I have to offer does not resonate with you, you will unsubscribe. If you like what you read and use it, if you feel good when you read, when you see something that rings true, you just know inside you want more, can you smell the sweet smell of success, then you will buy a product from us. If the products produce results for you, you will come back for more. Does that make cents and dollars?

Dr YJC

Is She Going To Call You? The No-Spin-Zone!

My sincerest wish for you is that you discover your inner strength and innate personal power so that you are not needy for women and ego validation through sexual conquest.

And that standing solid on your own principle, which you need never sacrifice for a relationship, you attract...

... not seek, not woo, not supplicate, not acquire through expenditure...

... a soul-mate who is hotter-than-hell beautiful and who possesses your values and beliefs!

Too often our desire clouds our judgment, and we assign values onto the object of our desire, values which do not actually exist in the person.

A classic example of this is assigning high intelligence or moral integrity to beauty.

While beautiful women can be intelligent and moral, just as often they are not intelligent at all and rather shallow, and would be the first to tell you so...

...but why should they?

They are enjoying the ride - the dinners, the drinks, the gifts, the attention, praise and worship!

Don't forget that they too have an ego that craves to be fed, why would they rock the boat?

They will when "something better comes along" and you will be left desolate and despairing, sinking further into the hole of neediness.

To stay out of the trap, remember this Bolan Mastery Key:

Do Not Base Your Sense of Self-Worth on the Approval of Women.

Matter of fact, do not base your sense of self-worth on ANYONE's approval. Ever.

To have the approval of others should be respected and appreciated, but not actively sought after.

To seek after it is your ego's craving to be fed.

It should simply come naturally.

And if it doesn't come?...

.... do not notice!

You will find that if you are going about your business to be the very best you can be as a Master Warrior of Life, the right one will notice you and reach out.

I always noticed when I looked like I was going somewhere, it got the attention of the beautiful women. Why? Because all the other guys are feeding at the troff like cattle....

....and here comes a stallion, going somewhere!

That is far more interesting energetically!

It "magnetizes"

Always remember these two things:

1. People Are Energy

2. People Are Magnets

Now, I received a question recently: "What should I say on her answering machine so that she will call me back?"

I use Bill O'Reilly's No-Spin-Zone rule: "If I leave a message twice, and they do not call me back, I do not call them again."

That's a great rule.

It means no desperation, no clinging, no neediness.

It means you respect yourself enough to not go chasing after someone like a love-sick puppy.

So what kind of message should you leave?

Plain and simple: "Hi, it's Scott. Give me a call. My number is xxx-xxxx"

That's it.

If she doesn't call you back? Great!

You don't want someone like that anyway. She did you a huge favor by removing herself from your life.

Keep it real and you'll never live a lie.

Hell is right here on earth for those who live in delusion.


Yours in Warrior Wisdom,

Scott Bolan

Firewall for the Brain

You have a firewall for your computer.

You have anti-virus software and spyware removal for your computer.

Why?

Because there are constant attacks, and constant new attacks being developed to hack into your computer.

What makes you think YOUR BRAIN is any different than your computer?

Just like viruses and spyware, there are "programs" that are developed to "hack" into your brain and take what they want.

After they've taken what they want, they leave your "computer" not operating very well, and getting dire results or just barely working at all!

You see, these programs literally set you up to fail, lose and self-destruct, after they've silently robbed you of your greatest force - your power for manifestation!

They get you to doubt yourself, to be cynical, negative, or confused, to freeze up when you should make a move.

If they get you to simply not make a winning move, they win and you lose!

I don't know about you, but me...

... I'd rather WIN!

Winning this game of life is what it's all about, and I'm damn well not going to let any programming stop me from winning.

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